In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.
Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.
Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.
Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.
good read Basically Dr. Laura tells us that we need to shut the hell up and cater to our husbands in order to get them to treat us well.
While it seems like a smack in the face, I guess having a relationship as such is what all men dream of...so when we give them that, they feel good, and in turn - they give us what we want.
Seriously though, I think it's important that we treat our men how we want to be treated - and not nag them or irritate them with neverending, meaningless ramblings. (we'd hate it if they did that to us)
So, I guess she makes some good points...it's worth reading if you're a woman who's wondering why her husband is annoyed with her or stonewalling all the time.
VERY HELPFUL IN HOW WOMEN SHOULD TREAT THEIR HUSBANDS
IM OLD FASHION EVEN THOUGH IM 40 YRS OF AGE. I THINK A WOMAN SHOULD BE A HELP MATE FOR THEIR HUSBANDS AND TO MAKE THEM KNOW AND FEEL THEY ARE THE MAN. ...more info
Even my husband thinks this book is stupid The basic premise of this book is that women are manipulative creatures who should only be interested in cooking, sex for their husbands, taking care of children, and keeping all negative thoughts to themselves. I thought that I was missing something from this book, so I gave it to my husband to read. He was actually insulted that Dr. Laura called him "simple," and thought that the book was way off the mark. Only buy this book if you are also willing to get a lobotomy so that you can become a Stepford Wife, too....more info
Top Notch Any woman who is having concerns about her relationship should read this book. I guarantee that it will do wonders to open a person's mind to a whole new way of thinking and, in the vast majority of cases, a MUCH happier relationship. This book changed my life and I have recommended it to countless others. Makes a PERFECT gift for a bridal shower or wedding!...more info
How to live miserably ever after That should be the subtitle. Within the pages of this book is advice that will, if you follow it to a 'T,' help you to become the miserable you-know-what Dr. Laura already thinks you are.
The following are a few of the more pathetic pieces of "advice" she vomits out:
1) Don't talk to your husband about your problems, talk to your girlfriends. You husband is only here to meet physical needs (his more than yours), not to listen to you "whine."
--I suggest you ask your spouse about this before swallowing it hook, line, and sinker in the name of wifely submission. It might sound good to him on the surface, but mention that it means you'll be complaining to your friends about him as well. If he's any sort of human being, he probably won't like it.
1b) Women don't want their problems solved, they only want to whine.
--Really? News to me, as well as to most reasonable women. Now, there ARE women who don't. There are women who just want to whine, I'm related to a lot of them. They are not the type of woman who will read this book. They type of woman who will read this book is the one who feels there is a problem in her marriage and wants to solve it...uh, I think I'm beginning to see where Dr. Laura's "logic" fails.
2) What a woman wants out of a marriage is what she sees on a soap opera, without the affairs.
--This, of course, assumes that all women waste their time watching soap operas in the first place. I would presume that when (ha-ha) she gets around to writing "The Proper Care & Feeding of Wives" she will advise husbands to spend time watching these types of shows so they can be better husbands.
3) You have "let yourself go" (ie you are now fat) and you dress like a bag. Dress sexy and get in shape, then your husband will like you.
--Another assumption of Dr. Laura is that fat women never get married. The only type of bride Dr. Laura has ever seen is a skinny one. Of all the advice she offers this is, hands down, the most damaging. There are going to be women out there who are already skinny, already doing all the other crap she suggests in this book, and they are going to think, "If only I become thinner, then he'll respect me." Our culture's obsession with weight isn't bad enough, Dr. Laura wants every woman to essentially starve herself until she's thin enough to please her fickle husband.
In short, the gist of Dr. Laura's book is that, unless a man wants to have children, he would be better off with a cook, a housekeeper, and a prostitute. You are a worthless piece of crud who doesn't even deserve him....more info
Taking Responsibility A breath of fresh air is what this book is!
* A change in attitude and a commitment to quality actions can bring such profound joy.
* Take responsibility for you own well being; stay rested, don't over commit and then complain, stay in touch with friends with a positive influence.
To quote me: Don't think for a minute that others find a hard working, faithful, loving man as being the schmuck- (you fill in the word) that you think he is.
* Me:Don't put making love to your husband after all of your other commitments! That's just idiotic!
There are literally thousands of women out there that would love to be my husband's wife. I have never taken him for granted or lessen him as a man.
My husband is hardly perfect, but neither am I. But he is the man, as Dr. Laura says, I chose to be the father of my children and the man I made a vow to.
How can I treat him any thing but kindness and respect. I what I get back for that effort is incredible! ...more info
A real life-changer This book literally transformed our marriage. I was lucky enough to read this after only 4 years of marriage; now I give it to everyone I know for a marriage present when they get married. It's so interesting, insightful, fun to read, and incredibly useful. Not everything in there applies to everyone, obviously, but there is so much that anyone can learn if they are open minded. WARNING: This book puts a lot of responsibility on women and some would call it anti-feminist. My answer to that: It works....more info
Truth for living This book confirmed my own belief on how a woman should care for her man, and in return he will meet all her needs. What could be more of a truth on giving then real life experiences. I highly recommend this book for all those who want a meaningful life. ...more info
Every woman should read this book! This book has been such an inspiration for me to follow, it's the ideal gift for every woman. Society in general would benefit greatly by the changes women can reflect after applying what we've learned in this book, I can't say enough on how much I enjoyed reading it- it is an absolute keeper, one I will sure pass on to my daughter for her family's benefit and all cherished girlfriends. ...more info
Every Married Woman should Read this Book! I know Dr. Laura's advice flies in the face of conventional wisdom among women's libbers. However, Dr. Laura very succinctly lays out that about all it takes to have a sincerely joyful marriage is to be nice to our spouses. Wow!! What a concept. This book tell you exactly how to be nice, something we may have forgotten after years of work, kids and marriage juggling.
I really, really recommend this book and after I read it, I passed it on to my newlywed daugher who's 24. She gavve it kudos, as well....more info
Makes us look at how selfish we've become! This is a really great book for anyone married: men and women. I think we forget to look at things in our lives from the other persons viewpoint. We start getting stuck in our "hurts" and our "feelings." We as women forget men have feelings too.
This book will help you appreciate your husband more and realize why you married in the first place.
If you don't like the book or the author, don't follow its principles. If you want a healthy and happy marriage: read this book! It could save your marriage!...more info
Help on getting real I think this book is excellent. When your marriage is headed down hill and you are done with denial and blaming, it's time for you to read this book. If you truly read it with an open mind and practice the basic premises you WILL see results. I am so thankful that I read this book, my marriage is better for it. It teaches to appreciate the differences between a man and a women instead of fight them. I think it's a really great book....more info
Eye opener This is an excellent book. She opened my eyes to how discriminatory our society can be in the way men are portrayed on TV, etc. and how their desires become secondary to the woman's. It definitely shows that men deserve a lot more respect than many are getting. It's been great for my marriage!...more info
THE BEST FOR KEEPING RELATIONSHIPS TOGETHER If you are having troubles in your relationship, I recommend this book. From a woman's perspective, it gives insight on how to treat men in a way where we, women, won't push them away with our misconceptions, plus, we get a look at what we are doing wrong in the relationship to contribute negatively to the arguments or to create them. I love this books and it saved my marriage. Men are simple creatures and this books outlines their simpleness. If we women pay attention to what really matters instead of worrying about the little things, the relationship will grow. The book helps focus on what counts and emphazises the importance of communication. Please women, listen to me and buy this book, our men deserve better, they are not the guilty parties as we always want to make them seem and this book made me realize this!!!...more info
A must-have for all wives. Dr. Laura gives advice that many women don't want to hear, but that they desperately need. If you keep your mind open to her advice, you will find yourself having an amazing marriage....more info
A little disappointed Can't get all the way through this one. Not what I expected. Dr. Laura has a tendency to generalize every situation. Doesn't take into consideration variables in each caller's situation....more info
Thank you Dr. Laura If you truly want a great marriage, read what Dr. Laura has to say. Selfishness is NOT the answer, giving is. Take personal responsibility about giving respect....more info
She has issues Dr. Laura really "preached" to the women about taking care of their man. I guess we can add Preacher to her title now too. We already know she's not a "real" counselor. This was a huge waste of money and time....more info
Thank You! Dr. Schlessinger's advice is right on.
If you are looking for a GREAT relationship - she's got a valuable point of view.
There is currently a war between men and women in our culture that inevitably threatens our relationships if we do not bring awareness to the fact that it exists and are not mindful of our unconscious participation in it.
Her point is very direct: on the whole, women want relationship, so since we want it, why trash men so much? I am impressed by her honesty about this volatile issue because she is really interested in people having great, supportive, respectful, loving and satisfying relationships, and is not afraid to suggest that dropping the war with men can be the answer.
I also highly recommend Ariel and Shya Kane's books: How to Create a Magical Relationship and Being Here: Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment. They address how to have a relationship that is satisfying and magical by dropping both the war with men and the need to be 'independent' when what we really want is to be in a satisfying relationship. I deeply appreciate both Dr. Schlessinger's and the Kane's refreshingly direct points of view!
Many thanks....more info
Great Read As a young woman who has a relatively stressful job as an attorney (and about to get married), I really appreciated this book. Many women look at the title, and think, this isn't the 18th Century where I should have to care for/feed my husband. At least, that is what I thought. The book, however, was refreshingly more about woman empowerment. While my soon-to-be husband has little (well as far as those that are voiced) complaints, it was nice to read about ways to improve upon my relationship (and ultimately my life). We're often all too busy doing for ourselves when we should be seeking out how we may help and care for those closest around us. ...more info
Women don't be shy. You will love this book! This was the best book I have ever read for my marriage. After reading it myself, my husband and I read it together. It did him a world of good too and has sparked many meaningful converations....more info
AMAZING! I always thought that there was nothing I could do to "change" my husband's mood and such. This book proves you can!...more info
Right On I found this prospective refreshing in today's world. It is eye opening to read men's comments about their feelings toward their wife's disrespect and selfishness. Any wowan who doesn't take this seriously is in serious troulbe in their relationship....more info
Proper care and feeding of husbands. Excellent information. I want to be prepared with the right knowledge and wisdom. Dr. Laura is "real". Her words are very truthful and liberating....more info
Excellent Book...All women should own one. I love this book, I bought this book for myself and now I am sending a copy to my married daughter. It reminds me of how simple a relationship can be and how to be the best wife I can be. I love it!...more info
Complete waste of time I found this book sensationalistic and the title in particular designed for shock value, of which Dr. Laura is a master. Dr. Laura puts the onus of responsibility for the relationship on the woman when the reality is anything but that. It takes two responsible, respectful individuals to make a relationship work. Period.
Anything "helpful" Dr. Laura has to say is flat out common sense that you can aquire for free. Everything else is mindless fluff that's at best useless and at worst offensive and misleading.
Bottom line: if your marriage or relationship is in trouble, this book won't help. If it's not, then this book won't do you any good and you don't need it anyway....more info
Dr. Laura at her most Dr. Laura-ish: no surprises here! Excellent no-nonsense classic Dr. Laura, telling women how to stop whining, complaining and being focused on themselves, and instead start to notice, care about and treat their husband right. The narrative is thickly padded with sizable excerpts from Dr. Laura's radio conversations and even letters from her listeners; however, the excerpts certainly serve to illustrate her points. Altogether a great, fairly quick read that helps to change the reader to get a "new attitude". ...more info
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands Very basic, very vital, a must-read for every wife or wife-to-be.
Dr. Laura ROCKS! A must have book for future brides and wives alike! This book changed my understanding of men, especially my husband - I have made many positive changes in how I love and treat my husband!...more info
Let's Get Real... and Honest The title of this book is interesting. Usually we read that kind of start for a title of a book about an animal. I think Dr. Laura is in denial.
A much better book for getting our needs met and meeting the needs of a husband is "Sex, Men and God", by Douglas Weiss....more info
Very Helpful I have really enjoyed reading this book. I have found it to be very helpful and is right on. ...more info
This will help your marriage! This book has helped our marriage in more ways than one. Our relationship, our parenting, our intimacy, our friendship. This book was exactly what I needed!...more info
Stay out of divorce court If more wives listened to Dr. Laura the divorce rate would go down, down, down. ...more info
Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands If you care about your marriage you will read this book. I purchased extra copies to share with others. After 18 years of marriage I didn't know think that things could get better. I love the new me, and I love the new level of love, warmth, respect, and passion in my marriage. Read it with an open heart, and mind...you will learn and gain so much!...more info
Good read Very insightful and very blunt. I am interested in reading her new one, Proper Care and Feeding of Marriages now....more info
You are a disgruntled wife? Huh? Then read this book, it will HELP you. My wife read this book and my marriage has SIGNIFICANTLY improved. I feel much better about my marriage and my wife even smiles at me and hugs me and enjoys being around me.
If you are a wife, please please please read this book with an open heart. And please don't be too put off by the urgency/tone of the author, she REALLY DOES have a lot of good things to say if you are willing to really listen.
Also recommended is: "For Women Only" and "For Men Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn.
A Must Read I love Dr. Laura and this book is a real eye opener. A lot of wisdom in this book. Read with an open mind and the desire for a great relationship with your spouse. You won't be disappointed...more info
Demeaning to Both Sexes This is one of the most offensive books I have read about marriage--this book demeans both men and women. I am a SAHM of three kids, been married since 2000, and know that putting out and putting my needs last doesn't work. It creates resentment. I do not fit the horrible stereotype of women (bitty, nagger, manipulator) Dr. Laura writes about. The premise of the book is that women cause the problems in their marriages (pretty much all by themselves). But the truth is that it's not all a man's or a woman's fault usually. Marriage is a two-way street.
Just be prepared to know that Dr. Laura says you should shag your hubby as often as he wants it--even if he doesn't talk to you or help around the house or meet your needs. Somehow that will magically fix everything wrong in your marriage. ...more info
Does he yell at you or insult you? Do you end up confused? Ok, then you're like me: I was in an abusive relationship and denied it (easy to do, denial. He was even physically abusive and I still denied it...) and when I got to the part about the Three A's (Abuse, addiction, adultery), just ignored it.
Listen to me, sisters: if he is yelling obscenities at you or messes with your head but you just can't figure it out and you're confused... this book will NOT help you. It will make things worse - because this book is designed for non-abusive men!!! Check out "Why Does He Do That?"
If you are in a non-abusive relationship, I recommend this book. I don't agree with her 100% about stuff, and I'm a proud progressive liberal, but I still think she's on the money about a LOT....more info
This book really CAN change your marriage and your life What a wake-up call this book was. Having been raised by and as a feminazi (but having long since come to my senses and recently having discovered Dr. Laura's radio talk show), this book revealed a lot of common-sense truths that almost seemed too easy, too good to be true.
Truths such as, treating your husband nicely will encourage him to treat YOU nicely. Truths such as, being demanding and selfish and insisting on financial and personal independence prevents family stability (which is what we women, and our children, really, truly do want and need).
With sexism against men at an all-time high, especially in the entertainment industry, you might think, when reading this book, that Dr. Laura is out of touch with reality. But nothing could be further from the truth: Her message is one of practicing the Golden Rule, and that the surest way to get over feelings of frustration or selfishness is to give of yourself.
I was a little skeptical about some of the advice in the book, but I tried it and noticed in a change in my own outlook as well as in my hubby's behavior. I felt happier, too, about my role as homemaker and mother.
A book like this, sadly, is least likely to be read by those who need it, but I can tell you with a very clear conscience and with compassion for couples that may be struggling that only good has come from my reading it, and hope you'll give it a chance.
Women must hate Dr. Laura Dr. Laura dares go where nobody else will dare go. While the mainstream media portrays men as bumbling idiots who can't get anything right if it weren't for women, Dr. Laura proves things are quite the opposite. She admits that women find her to betray their "cause", but what is that cause? Considering that Dr. Laura is a woman who is a professional and the author of the book, then she obviously is not suggesting that the "woman's place" is at home while men "rule" over their wives. Clearly, she is proof that her message is nothing like that.
What Dr. Laura does is dispel the myth that men are emotionless doldrums whose opinions are irrelevant and whose feelings should be set aside in favor of women's whims, which is the exact opposite of what people have been indoctrinated to believe. She provides numerous examples of callers, of how inconsiderate women can be towards men and how depressed men are becoming because they cannot emotionally attach to their wives.
Who needs this book? Everyone who has bought into the anti-men feminist movement. Dr. Laura also addresses them and how their man-bashing message has done quite a bit to undermine relationships.
This book is quite a tough pill to swallow for many. "Making someone else happy" is not a popular message ... well, unless if you are a man, in which case we've already been beat over the head with the "make your woman happy while ignoring your happiness because your feelings don't matter" doctrine....more info
Common sense, fair-minded marriage advice Many have a knee-jerk negative reaction to any book that flies in the face of current feminist "wisdom," but if the naysayers would really read and listen, they would see that what Dr. Laura is advcating is equity (NOT sameness) and fairness in the home. Example: if a woman says she wants to be treated like a queen and be pampered by her man, she's encouraged and praised. But if a man expresses a desire to be treated like a king, he's labeled a sexist jerk... Or if a woman complains about her husband not helping around the house or not doing t well enough, she's just expressing her needs, but if a man is upset because of her lacking in that department, again...sexist jerk. If she wants a spa day, she's just getting some well-deserved "me" time, but if he wants to golf with his buddies, he's being selfish and demanding. Hmmm. doesn't quite sound fair to me. Dr. Laura makes the assertion that most men are basically decent people with basic, simple needs - respect, a good meal, admiration, praise, sexual fulfillment - who will walk through fire to please the wife who meets these needs. On the other hand, wives who disrespect and dismiss their husbands and their needs shouldn't expect to be rewarded for their behavior. This is a book filled with common-sense advice that will make for some very happy marriages if readers will just listen with an open mind rather than jumping to wrong conclusions. Every wife should read this book....more info
An interesting display of wisdom and ignorance This book is bound to both entertain, delight and irritate people of both genders, for very different reasons. It is unlikely that after 40 years of feminist misandry, women are likely to change the habits they've picked up. There's no hope for that lost generation, but today they're reaching retirement age, and now it's the younger generations of women that matter most. What is pleasing is the number of young women I meet who've clearly rejected the attitudes of a generation of women who are now nearing retirement age lonely and single. The problem with books like these though, is that they always present stereotypical men and women who seem about as lifelike as Ken and Barbie.
Besides that, the author obviously felt compelled to offset her unpopular message to women by belittling men at the same time, as if to cheer her female readers up a little. She claims that man is a "very simple creature," who needs only "direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving'" to respond with devotion, compassion and love. What she means is that, compared with women, men are emotionally uncomplicated. No argument there. But could we call Thomas Edison a very simple creature because his emotional needs were uncomplicated? A very simple creature would have been unable to change the world with his inventive and creative genius, or have an intellect that has doubled the world's population in a few centuries. If that is a simple creature, then what name to give a creature which has shown and shows no creative drive or gift of invention, despite occupying 60% of university study places in the USA? 'Extremely simple'? 'Unbelievably uncreative'? Or 'Just plain stupid?'? In a perfect world, a person making such a claim would be condemned to one month living only on female inventions, although admittedly, that may qualify as a cruel and unusual punishment.
Besides her own prejudices though, this is a book which offers some interesting food for thought. Ultimately, everyone has to work out their own unique relationship though, and should just use this book for tips rather than as some kind of relationship bible. Perhaps the biggest failing of this book and many others like it, is that they lead people to the false conclusion that happiness is to be found through another person. No system of spiritual advancement has ever advocated finding strength and happiness through someone else. It is up to all of us to ensure that we spiritually grow, which is our main purpose as human beings, be that with a partner or not. The western fantasy of romance has caused so much unnecessary misery. It is interesting and revealing to note that women from cultures where romantic relationships are the exception, and marriages are more practical affairs, that these women are made of far stronger emotional material than western women, many of whom remain children inside, looking for a man to replace their parents, or the security of their family homes. Remember to always keep your own spiritual development in mind, that the western concept of romantic love is artificial, not naturally evolved or the only form of relationship, and that a guarantee for eventual unhappiness is to seek strength in another....more info
Best handbook for women I love this book and bought it for a good friend of mine who is getting married soon. It is one of the best books that can help a woman understand her husband or men in general....more info
A Better Idea I found this and kept an open mind, but I just couldn't get past the negativity this book was full of. I absolutely agree that women do silly things to their men - nag, complain, whine, withhold affection, and so on. And I agree that women oftentimes would have happier husbands, happier marriages, if we stopped.
However, Dr. Laura seems so hell-bent on showing us how mean, critical, emasculation we women can be that she misses the whole aspect of - "Ok, got it, how do we change?"
Yes, "Stop nagging" is simple advice - and Dr. Laura does say that. But if I'm nagging it's because SOMETHING NEEDS TO GET DONE AND HE AIN'T DOING IT!
Dr. Laura advises we "give it up" more often to our husbands - I agree, having children, a busy home, work puts a huge damper on romance. But that alone doesn't repair the damage done or replace bad habits with good.
I would have appreciated more concrete advice on how to stop doing the nasty things that can break down the marriage by replacing them with POSITIVE action.
I found that in The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace, which, while absurdly patriarchal at times, did offer solid ways I could improve our marriage. I'm a do'er - what can I *do* to fix things - and "The Surrendered Wife" was a great well of ideas (some of which I laughed at, but many of which I found value in).
By the way, I earn all the income for our family and am a far cry from traditional and/or religious values, but I so still see that men like to be treated like men, my husband included, and I'm willing to use what I can from books like these and leave the rest. My being a little softer, a little kinder and even a little less of a b*Tch, is never a bad thing....more info
Changed my view on marriage Say what you will about Dr. Laura's credentials, but give this book a chance. I know it is hard to swallow for self-proclaimed feminists, but the simple instructions in the book make sense! Just after reading the first few chapters, I was treating my sweet husband better! This book was frustrating because it brought to light my own selfishness, something I was not necessarily ready to confront. Basically, Dr. Laura says stop acting like a bitch and you'll reap the benefits. Love him for what he is, not what you want him to be.
I have given this book to numerous friends, my mother, my sister and mother-in-law. They all have had positive experiences after reading and re-reading it....more info
That's what "I" wanted to say. The book hits the nail on the head for exactly how I felt about my marriage. My wife, however, refused to read it. I wish she would, but then, I don't read her books either.
If you are a woman, it's a good read to understand what your husband actually feels. I have to warn you that the language is very strong and may seem overbearing. Nonetheless, the content is dead on....more info
Some sound advice, somewhat brutal style Having been immensely entertained by Helen Andelin's 'Fascinating womanhood' I thought I would try this book. However, I found it a big disappointment, it isn't nearly as funny as 'Fascinating Womanhood', and in fact much of the advice given in the book is quite rational, if somewhat brutally presented.
Dr Schlessinger's basic premise is that men are simple creatures who only want respect, admiration and feeding in order to be happy. A man is putty in his wife's hands and she has the power to make or break him. I have not personally found that men are always such simple, gentle people as she describes them as being. For instance, she admonishes women not to nag or criticise their husbands, which is all very well, but what if your husband is the one who is nagging and critical (as I have known to be the case in more than one marriage I know, my own included). I know that there are some very selfish and tyrannical wives and some terribly put-upon men, because Dr Laura's book is full of quotes from her radio show, and obviously these are genuine conversations she is quoting. Husbands can be tyrannical as well, but they are not dealt with in this book. However, she does mention that there are variations in human beings, and I suppose one must be satisfied with that.
Much of the advice given is very sound, and it differs in many respects from the 'Fascinating Womanhood' position. Dr Laura does not say that women shouldn't work outside the home for instance, though she does say that the family should have priority over work (which I frankly agree with). And, unlike Mrs Andelin, she recommends gratifying a man's sexual desires fully and not holding anything back (chasing my husband around the house, which one of her male correspondents recommends is beyond me I fear) Dr Laura does not, thankfully, recommend that a woman try to be like both Dora and Agnes from 'David Copperfield' as Mrs Andelin does, nor does she suggest cooing like cat or purring like a pigeon, and there is absolutely no mention of snakes in this book (from 'Fascinating Womanhood' I had dervied the impression that the USA is a country where the entire populace spend much of their time grappling with snakes). There are things in this book that I wish I had read when I was younger and my marriage was in a very rocky state.
If you want advice on how to improve your marriage, and you don't mind Dr Laura's somewhat harsh style, and you don't mind being told that responsibility for improving eh marraige rests entirely with you, the woman, then there is some sound advice here. For sheer entertainment value though, I recommend 'Fascinating Womanhood'....more info
A must read! In my opinion, this book is a "must read" for any one looking at getting married, male or female. Any married woman that is feeling "not quite satisfied" in her marriage would do well to give this book a try. If I were a man, I would buy a copy for my wife and encourage her to read it, maybe even read it together. A lot of good information. Save the money on the marriage counselor, buy this book and act on it! ...more info
Look no further Well, for the last years, men and women have been fed up with looking for this elusive and strange beast called "Happy marriage". There have been people telling they have seen it but, as Bigfoot or the Yeti, these reports come from strange lands or ancient times and most scholars tend to think that this creature is only a figment of our imagination. Sick and tired of trying to chase this mythical beast with no result, people have given up and start settling for substitutes. Men have adopted one-night stands, meaningful affairs and video games. Women have adopted single motherhood, entitlement attitude, male-bashing and shopping. Both sexes have also settled for ersazt marriages (marriage-for-the-kids, open marriages, doormat marriages and other kind of unhappy marriages) which have bring a lot of misery. But all these replacements have not made us forget the mythical beast we long for. Because in the core of the human heart there is a need for a happy long-term connection with another person and nothing can replace that.
Look no further. This book tells you all what you must do in order to have a good marriage. It is not rocket science: in fact, everything that it is explained here is plain common sense. But it is a sign of the decadence of the times that common sense is so extremely uncommon. So this book was badly needed. Of course, this flies in the face of all the BS which media and so-called "pundits" have told us for the last decades (because this is what we wanted to hear). This is not wishful thinking, fairy tales or how things should be. This is how things are and what to do about it. This is the truth, plain and simple, with the good and the bad.
For women: If you want to have a happy marriage, please read this book and practice what is taught there. You will have a great marriage and a husband that gives you a hundred for one. Please read this book without prejudices and with an open mind.
For men: Give this book as a present to your girlfriend and examine her reaction. If she tells you sincerely: "This book is what I have always thought", you probably have a keeper (for marriage). If she tells you sincerely: "I thought otherwise but this book has made me think", you may have a keeper (but you will have to check that). If she tells you "This is book is nonsense. Why isn't there a book called "the proper care and feeding of wifes"? (the book explains why), please leave her PRONTO. Don't let her misery ruin your life....more info
Wonderful! The title may put people off, but the content of this audiobook/book is excellent and will help couples greatly. I enjoy the audiobook as I can listen in the car and I've listened twice now to the book. It's very informative and practical advice for improving lives. Highly recommended....more info
MARRIAGE THIS IS A GOOD BOOK FOR ALL WOMEN TO READ (AND MEN TOO). RATHER A REMINDER THAT WOMEN AND MEN ARE NOT THE SAME AND IT MAKES YOU THINK OF HOW YOU CAN MAKE THINGS BETTER FOR YOUR HUSBAND AND YOU!...more info
Understand the message, don't politicize it. The message of this book can be summed up pretty easily. 1. Women have all the power in the household, they have just forgotten how to wield it (as a guy, I have no problem with this). 2. Men and women have fundamentally different needs (why is this actually a surprise to some people?) 3. Men, in point of fact, are not women and should not have the same expecations placed upon them (we're not your girlfriends; polls confirm that men actually prefer dining on shards of glass to chatting for hours on end). 4. The nicer you treat us, the nicer we treat you (you'd think that one would be self evident, wouldn't you?) 5. Women who let themselves go to pot, deny us sex, and use nagging as their preferred method of communicatiion for years on end, and then think that we will respond to this wonderful treatment with tenderness, love, and faithfullness are in for a very big surprise (that being in the form of divorce papers and mistresses who fill those voids experienced at home (mind you, this is equally applicable to men as well)).
I'm not entirely sure, but I think that Dr. Laura may actually be a guy; she seems to know them that well.
Let me be very clear... this book has NOTHING to do with a supposed reversal of feminism. There is nothing here saying that women can't have fulfilling and successful lives in any arena they choose. Ladies, the choice you have is very simple. If you are in an otherwise healthy relationship, and you want a happy man, follow the advice in this book. If you are not that interested in a happy man, don't bother....more info
A little too hard core for me I truly enjoyed and got a lot out of Dr. Laura's Proper Care And Feeding Of Marriage, however The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands is a bit insulting to women. I've actually been the wife who's husband had an affair and I can honestly say, I didn't drive him to it.... What are you thinking Dr. Laura?...more info
Deal with it, it works I know this book is going to infuriate all the feminists out there who demand women are equal to men and feel absolutely horrified at the idea of putting out to make their husband happy. But ladies, deal with her advice- it works. She makes some compelling arguments and is not afraid to state the numerous practical ideas that can help save or revitalize a marriage. It's time for women to stop being to PC about everything, and realize that if they do not want to end up divorced, they should pay attention to what Dr. Laura says. As for her degree- I've known numerous therapists and psychologists who were so far off I am quite certain they purchased their degree. So what if she is a physiologist by training? At the end of the day, she makes compelling arguments and her ideas WORK. If women are interested in saving their marriage, they'll get over their pride and all the I'm-a-woman-hear-me-roar business and follow her advice. ...more info