One of the country's leading researchers updates his revolutionary approach to solving--and preventing--your children's sleep problems
Here Dr. Marc Weissbluth, a distinguished pediatrician and father of four, offers his groundbreaking program to ensure the best sleep for your child. In Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, he explains with authority and reassurance his step-by-step regime for instituting beneficial habits within the framework of your child's natural sleep cycles. This valuable sourcebook contains brand new research that
- Pinpoints the way daytime sleep differs from night sleep and why both are important to your child - Helps you cope with and stop the crybaby syndrome, nightmares, bedwetting, and more - Analyzes ways to get your baby to fall asleep according to his internal clock--naturally - Reveals the common mistakes parents make to get their children to sleep--including the inclination to rock and feed - Explores the different sleep cycle needs for different temperaments--from quiet babies to hyperactive toddlers - Emphasizes the significance of a nap schedule -
Rest is vital to your child's health growth and development. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child outlines proven strategies that ensure good, healthy sleep for every age. Advises parents dealing with teenagers and their unique sleep problems
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Ugh Ugh - this is my comment on this book. Firstly, as others have already noted, this guy should have hired a good editor. There are inconsistencies all over the place with regard to his recommendations. More importantly, though, the author advocates letting a 4-month-old cry it out alone, with no checks or consolations or visits, for the entire night. That's right: according to this guy, it's OK to put your baby down in the crib, shut the door, and do not return until morning. Help! Who does this?!?!??!? Don't bother buying this book unless you are a sociopath....more info
Book puts parent to sleep and sorely needs editing I was very disappointed with this book. Although some of the concepts are helpful (1-2 hour rule, importance of scheduling sleep, CIO), Weissbluth is overly repetitive and verbose weakening the overall message. In the first 100 pages he has several bullet points that say "never wake a sleeping baby" then shortly thereafter he describes that actually, you should wake a sleeping baby to stay on a schedule. He describes how to come up with a sleep log, but does not offer a diagram which would be helpful-particularly for the likely sleep deprived parent reading the book.
The book does have some bolded boxes, which are a good start, but some of the text is not clear. On page 74 there is a box of bolded text with a title of "Resources for Parents' Ability to Soothe" which include, among others "Absence or presence of marital discord." How is that a resource for parents' ability to soothe? That's similar to the caliber of writing throughout.
I would have generally preferred action items-with those highlighted in boxes.
Life Saver! I am a pediatrician (now stay at home mom) with 2 1/2 year old twins. This book is fantastic. I am not sure how well I would have made it through without it! Healthy sleep habits are so important keeping the whole family healthy. I will be recommending it to all of my parents one day. It is my new baby shower gift....more info
This book made me so frustrated! I wound up throwing this book into the trash, literally. I was so fed up with it's superior tone and frankly the book told me that my baby's sleeping problems were all my fault! I'm more in the Dr. Sears camp of parenting and this book did not suit me at all. I read it, eager to find solutions, only to find that implementing the techniques suggested simply did not work. ...more info
this book is child abuse This book is one of the scariest thing i have ever read. A true book of horror.
This book misses the whole idea that children are children and should not be expected to act like adults act. I know adults that dont sleep through the night and forcing a child to sleep through the night is awful. Let the children vomit? Ignore them and clean them up after they are asleep?
We cannot treat prisoners of war this way, but somehow it is ok to treat our children this way? I dont see how any parent can use this and be able to sleep at night... even if it makes their child sleep (which it probably wont). The last thing we need to teach our children is to not trust their parents and that their cries will go unheard because of their parent's selfishness....more info
The best sleep book by far..and I have read them all! This book is excellent. I had a tough time getting my son to sleep when he was an infant. He wouldn't nap, would wake every hour, was very fussy. I was in desperate need of help, so I read every sleep book available for babies, I mean all of them. This one made so much sense and is organized in such a way that you take it a few months at a time. Unlike babywise, this book doesn't employ the "cry it out " mehod from day one. It is not until you child has learned to soothe himself that it recommends crying it out. That is the route I took, but if that is too hard, it had other methods listed that may work for your style better. My son slept through the night after 1 night of crying it out, yes 1 night! also, he went from tasking lots of 20 minute catnaps to a 3 nap schedule then later to a 2hr 2 nap schedule. He is now an excellent sleeper and goes right to sleep for his naps and bed without any protest. In fact, I think he looks forward to his naps and bed. When he wakes up in the morning and from his naps, he babbles to himself and plays with his teddy bear. He is very well rested and truly a happy child. I cannot stress the importance of this book! Healthy sleep habits do = a happy child!!!...more info
Helped my 3.5 month old sleep 11-12 hours a night Ferber (I know this is a review for Weissbluth but bear with me) says "It's entirely reasonable to cut back to two nighttime feedings by the time your child is two or three months of age, one feeding by three or four months, and none at all at five months. Many children give up nighttime feedings altogether around the age of three or four months;basically no normal, healthy full-term babies still require a nighttime feeding when they are five months old, and you can certainly insist on stopping them altogether at that point if you want to."
Sounds too good to be true? That's exactly what my son did.
From talking to my friends, it sounds like I won the lottery on the sleep friend since my 3.5 month old son has started sleeping 11-12 hours straight a night. He just started a week ago and he's not completely consistent about this yet, so there are some nights he still wakes up to be fed, but I can happily live with that. I think part of it is genetic & part of it is luck, but I also attribute it to the fact that I obsessed over having him develop healthy sleep habits early on so I could avoid having to "sleep train" or break bad habits later on. Some of things I did as soon as he turned 2 months old:
- Moved him to his crib in the nursery (before that he was sleeping with me in bed)
- Did not wake him for feeding during the day (if he slept through a meal, I would just time shift subsequent feedings)
- Avoided rocking him to sleep
- Put him down while he was drowsy but still slightly awake
- Separated the time between his last feeding for the day and bed time (so he didn't need to rely on food to fall asleep)
- Made sure all his naps and bedtime were in the crib
- If he fell asleep in a swing, I would turn off the motion so the swing would be still
Basically, I tried very hard to teach my son how to fall asleep by himself while respecting his demands and need for sleep (i.e., watching for his sleepy cues and letting him sleep for as long as he needed, even during the day).
The two books I swear by that gave me the necessary methodology are "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth and "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Richard Ferber. There was some overlap between the two, but I gleaned enough different information from them that I recommend getting both.
Parents often think that to get their kids to sleep longer at night, they
should be kept awake for as long as possible during the day so that they become exhausted in the evenings and snooze better. WRONG! Kids actually become "overtired" and can't sleep. Instead, they should sleep as much as they need to during the day and be put to bed earlier -- completely counter intuitive. I used Weissbluth to make sure I paid attention to when my son showed signs of being sleepy and put him down for napping right away. Weissbluth also gives some very helpful descriptions on what to expect (and what to do) when a baby is 0-2 months old, 2-3 months old, etc.
Ferber is attributed (and in a bad way) for the "cry it out" method, but I think it's because people misinterpret his recommendations. I think he is misunderstood and his methodology isn't as traumatic as people make it out to be. Having said that, I never actually had to sleep train my child or "Ferberize" him. Ferber doesn't recommend this for children until they are four months old, and I wasn't going to even try until he was five months old, but I was able to avoid this altogether.
Oh, and try to read these books BEFORE you baby is born! These books are not light reading and I made the mistake of tackling them after my darling was born which is tough to do when I had so little "free" time and was horribly sleep deprived. But the effort paid off in spades....more info
Poorly Written and Unintelligible I am a proponent of the "Cry It Out" method and have four-month-old twins. However, if you'd like to try this technique, I recommend talking to your pediatrician and other parents. Do NOT bother to read or buy this book. It's so poorly written that it's frustratingly unintelligible and confusing. It's full of contradictions. Here are just some examples: Weissbluth has bold reminders throughout the book to never wake a sleeping child, but he recommends waking your sleeping child as a solution to several sleep "problems"; he says that your baby may wake up around 7am and should only have one hour of wakefulness before the first morning nap, but should not be put down for a morning nap until 9am, two hours later; he says that any nap under 60 minutes is not a nap, but your child may only need a 45 minute nap, in which case any nap under 30 minutes is not a nap. I am quoting directly from the book, so I would only recommend buying this if you are somehow able to decipher this advice.
This book is terrible. A total piece of junk....more info
If you want your baby on a schedule, read this sleep training manual! This read was vehemently recommended by a friend so I purchased it while I was still pregnant. I have to say I am grateful for her recommendation! Three things this book did, and still does, for me: First, it put my son on a schedule. I'm a work-from-home Mom so this was very important for me. Second, I got to sleep- ALOT! Even though I breast fed during the first four months I was well rested. (And therefore, wasn't a biotch to my hubby.) Lastly, it gives me a heads up to a growing baby's sleep schedule. Babies change so fast! The book recognizes those changes, explains the stage they're in, and makes the appropriate recommendations. Sounds like an easy manual for "How to get my baby to sleep." Well, honestly I have to warn that this is not the easiest book to follow. At first I was confused by the contradictory methods in the different sections but soon realized that it was more helpful if I took on one section at a time. For example, right before my son got to the next stage, I would read the next set of "instructions". I do recognize that the sleep training may have been easier for me to follow because I started right at the recommended 6 weeks but, after reading the case studies of sleep training for toddlers, I don't know if I could have gotten through it. Overall, not the easiest read but the content worked and still works for my baby and me. I know not all babies and parents may feel Dr. Weissbluth's methods are for them but just try it and stick to it. It'll work for you too. ...more info
happy baby this book really helped us a lot. simple, practical advice that is explained with compassion for new parents with fussy babies. our child is acting so much happier and we are able to get him down for naps so much quicker. thanks!...more info
Best book ever! I had problems trying to get my 5 month old to sleep at night. I was quite skeptical, but I used the suggestions from this book and within 2 nights she was sleeping through the night. She is now 7 1/2 years old and still sleeps like a rock! My second daughter is a super sleeper, too. I recommend this for any exhausted parent!
P.S. I also have given this book to several other new parents. One friend was SO thankful--her son has been sleeping 11 hours at a time since she was given this book. Before he was waking up every 3 hours. It really works!
Not for caring parents of High needs or fussy babies First off, this book is boring and difficult to enjoy reading. Next, the author is insultive to babies who fall into his category of Highly fussy/Intense temperment. He calls parents of these "unlucky" and that these children will most likely only respond to the cry it out method. Shame on both counts! It may be difficult to parent these children at times due to a lack of parental resources. However, telling parents they are unlucky to have a child like this is certainly not going to help them rise to the occasion. These children can successfull learn to sleep gently and with love as they mature. Plus, they truly do bring out the best parent in you if you yield to what is needed. Parents of truly fussy or high needs babies this book is not for you. Maybe for the placid baby your friends have, but not you! Beware, and save your money!...more info
Best Sleep Training Method Ever! Although this book can at times be confusing and contradictory, my friends and I have found it to be the best sleep training method. We've found the extinction method to work the best, and the sleep schedule really works. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone who's sleep traiing their baby....more info
this book needs a good editor! hi,
we did cry it out ,and it did work for us. but, just fyi, it's not something you do once and that's it! periodically, we have to do it again, eg, after illness, development, time change!, etc. we've been more slack, not hard core with later attempts, but our son seems to have the 'basics' down so it takes less time. but also as he gets older, and more vocal, verbal, it's harder to ignore him! ;-) (he's almost 1 year). we ended up using another book which helped us better--the sleep easy solution. my problem with this book is that it is not organized in a orderly fashion. it is very hard to read and follow! the above book we ended up using is very easy to read, very easy to find quick answers, etch. weissbluth's book is just so disorganized to me, and a lot of things seem contradictory. and, to me, the idea of sticking the baby in their crib, closing the door, and not going in again until the next morning is way too cruel and harsh! Also, one thing my husband thought was odd is that all the research is his research, not from some independent body. which to me seems a little biased, odd. bottom line, you and your partner have to be in agreement with whatever youdeciide to do. and, follow your gut with what works or doesn't work for your kiddo. ...more info
This book is right on! I am the mother of 3 children, all of which have been terrible sleepers. I bought this book when my now 5 year old was 10 months old. Following the Dr's instructions in the book, my up every hour baby was sleeping 12 hours/night without waking. I will say, I wish the book was laid out a bit better, it is a quite choppy and jumps around quite sporadically, but the information is there and it is extremely useful and accurate, you just have to read the whole thing. If you want your child to sleep and are OK with crying it out, this is for you. ...more info
Reassuring and Educational Every infant presents different sleep challenges, and I found this book to be a wonderful resource as I decided how to establish healthy and regular sleep schedules for my twins. The book offers easy-to-understand insight into WHY your baby might have difficulty establishing a good sleep routine. I especially like that Dr. Weissbluth differentiates between problems that colicky babies face and those that "normal" babies face - because the causes and cures are quite different, even if the symptoms are similar. A light went on for me when I read about infants' natural period of wakefulness, and it was amazing how much happier my babies were when I was more attuned and responsive to their signs of tiredness. The book covers both Ferber, and other methods of sleep training, and I never felt like I was being lectured...only informed. Dr. Weissbluth offers general guidelines for nap schedules and total hours of sleep needed at different ages, and I continue to use the book as a reference for my toddlers as they go through different development and growth stages....more info
If you've tried most everything else and you'd like to start paying more attention to your own sleep, your marriage, your pets... then this book helps to pass the time while your child is tiring herself out crying in her crib. You'll probably get some strength/resolve by piecing together the parts of various anecdotes that you can relate to. In our case, using advice from other books, kid naps well, kid is a joy during the day, but kid just wakes up much more frequently at night than she used to and has increasing difficulty falling back asleep. This book delivers solid, sound, advice in a repeated fashion so you're not likely to miss an important point. However, unless indeed you've tried other methods long enough to agree that the author's observations are generally sound -- albeit not intuitively obvious -- you may initially find it easier to dismiss this book for some of the gentler alternatives on the market.
Btw, do yourself a favor and check on the child either on a night vision camera or in person immediately after things quiet down. The baby may have fallen asleep standing or be tangled up in her swaddle....more info
useful but annoying Weissbluth is a pediatrician with a background in sleep research. He stresses the vital role of good sleep in healthy development, often comparing children's need for sleep to their need for food (for example, he coins the phrase "junk sleep" in analogy to "junk food"). After convincing the reader to take sleep seriously (a valuable contribution in itself), he sets out some sensible advice for achieving healthy sleep. A notable feature of Dr. Weissbluth's approach is that he sees nothing wrong with letting a baby "cry it out" in order to learn self-soothing skills. This contrasts sharply with the views of Dr. William Sears, the "attachment parenting" advocate. (In fact, in the final chapter of Weissbluth's book he can't resist taking jabs at Dr. Sears' ill-informed sleep advice. Baby advice is apparently a nasty business.)
The ideas and research may be sound, but the book itself leaves much to be desired. The book begins on a gratuitous and superfluous note with a forward written by supermodel Cindy Crawford. By the end of Chapter 1, though, you're wishing that Cindy had written the whole book. Dr. Weissbluth may be an excellent pediatrician and sleep researcher, but he's a lousy writer. The prose is monotonous, repetitive, poorly organized, and sometimes frustratingly ambiguous. The reader is subjected to endless testimonials written by his former patients, describing how miserable their lives were until Dr. Weissbluth saved the day with his penetrating advice (inevitably, "put the baby to sleep earlier"). There are a dozen or so diagrams ("figures") in the book, each consisting of a baffling jumble of words and arrows. One such graph has a node inexplicably labeled (I swear I am not making this up) "infanticide". ...more info
Author shows signs of ADD While reading this book, I couldn't help but think of Geoffrey Rush's performance in "Shine", or Robin Williams antics during a "Tonight Show" interview, or trying to make a 3 year old explain why the sky is blue. Or even, trying to create a portrait with a paint ball gun!! It brings these chaotic images to mind, doesn't it..full of diversions and detours and digressions. Entertaining when you deal with comedy, yes..but this is not the label you would want for this type of book. It didn't get 1 star for 2 reasons: 1) I liked the fact that the good doctor is not a strict "Back to Sleep" advocate. 2) It was good to see that there was actually a perfect description of my 3 month old girl which meant that we, as parents, were doing the best we could.
The book is disorganized, repetitive, at times contradictory. It is by no means a structured "How To" manual. Try this: pick 2 pages at random and see how many points he has repeated. As my title suggests, the good doctor was not able to build progressively on any one point. There is much useful information dispersed like confetti within the writing..good luck organizing it. Editor, Editor, Editor...much like the real estate mantra "Location, location, location".
To parents who would like their baby to experience deep sleep during those few times they sleep, consider this: try tummy down. I am beginning to believe that the tremendous reduction in SIDS cases has NOT solely been due to the "belly up" campaign. The data analysis that brought about this campaign DID NOT consider the social/economic environment of the households polled (smokers/education/alcoholism). It has become the first commandment in sleep posture because it simply worked without considering why "belly down" didn't work. This has been intuitive for me after observing my baby sleep for the first month..tummy up and tummy down. I'm sorry folks, "belly up" during the infant years, goes against mother nature. While scouring articles on the web, it is apparent that some scholars in pediatrics are beginning to question the "Back to Sleep" campaign as well. There is an important petition:
which explains in great detail why we should begin to reconsider the entire SIDS policy. The consideration of "Slow Wave Sleep" is extremely important. That's my two cents..and now even if my baby doesn't sleep a lot, she sleeps deeply..and I can tell since she's alert and happy when she's awake.
Must have for all parents This is the best book that I could recommend for anyone looking to have a happy rested child. The concepts are precise and easy to follow. The book is divided into easy to read chapters and can be used as a great resource for many years. I can not recommend it enough or give it enough praise. This is a MUST have....more info
Would have been lost without it! I would have been lost without this book. I read through it and started the suggestions with my first baby and have used it for all of my children. It is so very helpful with knowing how you can help your baby to sleep at any age. Our 3.5 year old has been sleeping through the night in his own bed since age 4 months from 7 pm to 7 am, and has always been a great napper on the schedule recommended. Our 20 month old has been sleeping through the night in his own bed since age 5 months from 7 pm to 7 am, and also takes naps on the recommend schedule. They're behavior is really good, and I can tell they are much less hyper than other children, because they are well rested.
I love how Weissbluth gives different options for ways to soothe and doesn't scold you for rocking your baby. You may have to let your baby cry a little, but he doesn't recommend doing that until the child is several months old and not a tiny newborn.
I either buy or recommend this book to all of my friends. I'll be pulling it out again for our new baby this fall....more info
This book saved my sanity! This booked saved my sanity!! My 4 month old was not going to bed until 11pm and then waking up every 3 hrs to eat and then waking up for the day by 7am. I bought this book, followed the instructions, and he started sleeping for 8 hrs stretches within a few days. I love how the book gives you a few approaches so you can find what is most comfortable for you as a parent. The doctor has done years of research so take advantage of his knowledge. Best buy for new parents!...more info
Helped us sleep through the night After trying the no cry version we realized that after weeks it wasn't working for us and we were getting less sleep than we had been.
This book has helped turned my boys into good sleepers. I still reference it if I have a question about colds or early wakings, etc.
I was firmly against CIO methods but we were so sleep derived that I felt I would give this book a chance and it has worked wonders. The only issue I have is the info on twins and mutiples is not all that detailed like the rest of the book - though I think he is coming out with a book this summer that addresses twins and multiples.
Saved my sanity! I am not joking when I say this book saved my sanity. There is a section written especially for extremely fussy and colicky babies that was my savior. I was convinced that nothing was going to work for my constantly crying baby, but Dr. Weissbluth knew exactly what was wrong. Finally someone could tell me what was wrong and how to fix it. My 5 month old daughter went from never napping to getting 2 naps totaling at least 3 hours everyday. We have our bumps but it is not daily and she is so much happier and learning so much quicker. This book is for babies from birth to adolescents with bad sleep habits. Dr Weissbluth has solutions for every family from the "let cry" to the "no cry" solutions. This book is so worth it and I will always use it for reference. ...more info
Sleep advice based on research: Follow the advice, and miracles can happen! Dr. Weissbluth's methods to help children sleep are based on sound research. He has been practicing pediatrics for more than 30 years and has conducted numerous studies on children's sleep habits. This is one of the reasons that we felt that his advice could help our colicky baby sleep better. We started using Dr. Weissbluth's methods when our son was 4 months old - he is now 3 years old and sleeps from 6pm until 7:30am every day. He is a happy, well-adjusted child who is eager to learn and gets along with other children. I attribute much of this to being well rested. Using Dr. Weissbluth's "sleep rules" with a 2.5 - 3 year old child can really help! This book can help exasperated and exhausted parents of children of all ages. It is the only parenting book that I consistently refer to at every stage of my child's life. ...more info
Sleep Help for the Whole Family This book is one of the most helpful tools to use to train your baby or CHILD (it's never too late to train a child to sleep well!) to sleep. It was recommended to me when my first child was a newborn and it was a great resource to use to teach all 4 of my children to get the rest they needed so my husband and I could then rest as well. Well-rested children = well-rested parents = happier household! I now buy this book regularly to give as a baby gift to parents of newborns. Need help with sleep issues in your house? Try it--you won't regret it!...more info
child therapist As a child therapist I was very frustrated that my child had such a natural sleep aversion. He would wake us up half a dozen times per night in the first year. This book is well researched and actually answers all queries and concerns for individual situations. Not all children are born the same, thus one step does not work for all children. However, we can work with their nature to get them to sleep through the night. Honestly, we are still working on the scheduled naps, but he now goes down in his room at 7pm and doesn't waken until 6 am or so. That is huge! Licensed psychotherapist and mother of two sleep resistant boys....more info
LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS BOOK!!!!! I could not have lived with out discovering this book with my first child and I am glad that I kept it around for my second child. OUR LIVES REVOLVE AROUND THIS BOOK!!! I get one for all my friends that get pregnant and they also love it....more info
Finally sleeping - all of us This book was recommended to me by so many people, and I kept ignoring their advice. There is a lot in here that you may not need when you are "in the moment" of trying to find an immediate solution to your baby's sleep issues. However, we found there were sections that we could read to get us to a place where we could cobble together a good sleep plan for the baby and for us. It just takes a bit of time to piece it together. We used this book along with a modified "ferber" plan, and it is working. Interestingly enough, as I write this our baby slept 10 hours straight last night! Unreal to us as we have never slept more than 4 hours in the last 4.5 months of our lives. I have read all the other sleep books AND had a sleep coach and this book and ferber helped us. Other pts - I found it an easy read, it was organized well....more info
I loved this book I loved this book. I found it extremely easy to read with solid, reasonable advise. The author talked about how to get your child appropriate amounts of sleep at all ages then gave practical suggestions on how to implement it.
I really appreciated that it didn't seem to push an agenda. The author didn't seem to push a preference for co-sleeping vs. baby in their own room or nursing/formula feeding.
Although the author recommends letting children cry it out (CIO) after it becomes age appropriate, he also gave other options if parents were uncomfortably with the CIO solution....more info
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child After following the steps set out by Dr. Weissbluth, my daughter began sleeping 12 hours through the night (without a peep) at 9 months!! She is now 2 years old and is still a great sleeper (she sleeps 2 hours at naptime, too). There is little to no drama at bedtime and if she does cry, it is for less than a couple minutes before she falls to sleep. My daughter is a happy, well-rested and congenial child, who is a joy to be around. Pretty amazing since I was at my wits end before I got this book and began taking control of my baby's sleep habits. When you read this book, start from the beginning (it can read like a thesis at first but the case studies are great learning tools). Once you have the concept down, you can start applying it to your child by age and temperment. I recommend this book to all new parents and parents of toddlers. You have to be willing to keep a sleep log, schedule your child's naps and make an effort to keep a scheduled bedtime in the beginning (the first year at least!). But once your child has mastered soothing herself to sleep, she can sleep anywhere. My second child is 3 months old and already sleeping 6 to 7 hours at a stretch at night. Yup, I'm tired but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And, my little boy will be sleeping through the night like his sister in no time at all thanks to Dr. Weissbluth!...more info
Research-based info by a researcher himself As a professional who reviews and uses research to guide treatment of my patients with language and cognitive deficits, I found Dr. Weissbluth's book to be the most straightforward, data-based resource on sleep hygiene. I only wish I had read this book BEFORE I had my baby! It would have saved me from six months of being a zombie....more info
Unscientific, dangerous, and will drive parents crazy (and needs an editor) Dr. Weisbluth repeats the assertion that this book is based on science so many times that it's easy to get bamboozled into taking it seriously, especially as a sleep-deprived new parent whose brain isn't functioning at full capacity. My husband and I fell for it at first, in spite of my PhD in physics and usual skepticism towards vague claims about being "scientific." When we were trying to follow it, it just about drove us crazy. The author gives brief lip service to the idea that every baby is different and you need to pay attention to your particular baby's needs and temperament. Then he goes on to tell you exactly how many naps your baby should be taking, at what time of day, and for how long, and argue that if your baby isn't following his schedule, he is really going to be screwed up. This, along with his claim that it's bad for babies to sleep in a sling, swing, or anywhere other than a firm bed, resulted in us being confined to our house, spending hours a day trying desperately to make our 6-week-old baby go to sleep when Dr. Weisbluth said she was supposed to. Once we gave up on this book and just let our baby sleep when and where she wanted to, it was clear that she didn't really have any sleep "problems" other than following her own schedule rather than Dr. Weisbluth's, and our whole family was a lot calmer and happier.
For the first few months, while it's clear what you're baby's supposed to do, it isn't clear what you're supposed to do to make your baby do it. After that, the main "solution" he proposes for any and all sleep problems is to leave your baby alone to cry until he falls asleep. He claims that this method is based on science, but if you read carefully, the scientific evidence he presents to support it is incredibly weak. He essentially builds up a straw man of the opposite extreme, responding to every tiny sound a baby makes, and argues that since the straw man is bad, his method must be good. For example, one of the main pieces of evidence he presents is a study that "...compared children over six months of age whose parents indiscriminately responded to every cry, day or night, to those children whose parents were trained to respond promptly to every intense, stressed, or demanding cry but to delay their response to quite vocalizations or weak cries" and found that at one year of age the children in the latter group cried more. This study suggests that one should not respond to every sound, but certainly does nothing to support the opposite extreme of leaving your baby to scream alone for hours even to the point of vomiting. Yes, Dr. Weisbluth actually suggests that if your baby cries so hard he vomits, you should clean up the vomit and then leave him to cry some more! As a scientist and a caring human being, I would hope that anyone suggesting something so apparently cruel and contrary to all my maternal instincts would have some overwhelming evidence to support it. However, this book does not present any such evidence. I would suggest that anyone contemplating using this method first read chapter 10 of Dr. Sears' The Baby Sleep Book: The Complete Guide to a Good Night's Rest for the Whole Family (Sears Parenting Library), which presents strong evidence that it is in fact quite dangerous. Dr. Sears perhaps goes a bit too far to the other extreme, and it may be that leaving a child to cry might be necessary as a last resort for a few babies, but advocating this for all babies is just irresponsible.
Aside from the disturbing content, this book desperately needs and editor. A friend who is more generous than I am described its incoherent, rambling, and repetitive prose as "perfectly in tune with the delirious post-partum mind." But really, it's just hard to understand what he's talking about. For example, he frequently emphasizes the benefits of keeping a sleep log, and this seems to be a central feature of his method, but to find directions for how to do this, we had to look in the index. The directions are buried on page 222 in a subsection of "Weeks Seven To Eight," in between the subsections on easy babies and fussy babies. These directions are so complex that they seem to require Excel to implement, and so confusing that we never really figured it out. Really, if you're going to suggest making color-coded bar graphs, at least include a diagram for us poor sleep-deprived parents!...more info
Extremist The author of this book is very extremist about sleep. For a new mom (or dad), this is the last thing she (or he) needs. After meticulously following the advice in this book, it was I who ended up a nervous wreck. My baby's sleep habits are as they are. She doesn't nap or sleep at the hours suggested in the book, and her sleep habits tend to change from day to day (even at nine months). When she cries for more than a few minutes before a nap or at night, it's because something is wrong. Either I'm trying to force a sleep schedule on her that doesn't work, or else she wants to eat again, even if she just ate. I find that my baby is now awake for a couple of hours in the morning before her nap, and then several hours in the afternoon and evening before her second nap and night sleep. This sometimes means she goes to sleep at night at seven, and sometimes at ten. But when I respect HER time clock, she goes to sleep quite happily...on her own....more info
A few good points in a very long book The amazon.com review written by H. Grable pretty much sums up all the important points in this book for you in one paragraph. The book itself is a long tedious read. I was getting no sleep with my child and this book just made me feel sleepier. It talks extensively about why sleep is so important and how unhealthy it is for children not to be getting good sleep which only made me feel bad. Our basic sleep dilemma was teaching our son how to soothe himself to sleep without props (rocking or nursing). This book offered little help with that other that cry-it-out. ...more info
One of the best baby books! If you want to get a good night sleep and give your child the gift of healthy sleep habits, you MUST get this book. It the best book that I have read on the topic...and I read a lot! My baby just turned four months when I got the book and even though he is a good baby and slept pretty well at night, this book gave me the tools and insight to give my baby more structure, including the naps he needs to take and to sleep even longer and more soundly at night. A must buy for any tired and responsible parent....more info
Methods Still Working 2 Years Plus! My Sleep Bible!!!!
This book was given as a gift before my son arrived. The sleep methods are clear, scheduled, and best of all...they work! I used this to establish naps and a nighttime routine.
No child is perfect and even my sleep trained son gets off track occasionally. I return to this book to correct any problems that creep into his sleep pattern. Every time the suggested solution works. For example, at 2 he tried to drop his nap. Got it reestablished within 2 days. A few months back, he was requesting water in the middle of the night. Nipped that in the bud in 2 nights. Real life examples are presented with specific solutions.
I see there are several parents that say this book is not for colicky babies or problem sleepers. I cannot speak to that, but for a typical newborn to toddler (and the book goes up to teenagers-just have not needed that yet) it gets results!
Please note, while the methods are not torture like some reviews have suggested, many are not for the faint of heart. Two nights of crying can equal years of peaceful nights!
I recommend trying this out if you feel lost. A well rested parent equals a happier home!!! ...more info
Best baby sleep book on the market This book saved my sanity. I had read Ferber carefully and had read a fair amount about sleep before having a baby, and yet, by 5 months, my daughter was a terrible sleeper, and I was losing it. We used the techniques in this book, and my daughter almost immediately began sleeping better. I was able to move her bedtime from 10 or so to 7:30, and she began napping in her crib (which she never did) for 45 minutes, then an hour, then 1.25-1.5 hours per nap. Furthermore, I have used the techniques in the book to help other friends straighten out sleep habits in their babies with great success.
Some things that I particularly liked about this book: sleep patterns and actions needed to promote better sleep are broken down by age in a very concrete manner that even a ferociously sleep deprived mother can get, nursing to sleep is allowed to a certain age as is night nursing (within limits), and the technique focuses as much on awake time (e.g., making sure babies are awake for the proper amount of time between naps) as does on sleep.
My daughter was a different baby once we got her sleeping using the techniques in this book. I know some people think that crying it out is a terrible thing to do to a baby, but as long as the baby is the right age and capable of learning to self-soothe, it really does lead to happier babies and parents. Every morning when I went to my daughter's crib during the training period (and beyond), she greeted me with a big smile. She was so happy to be well-rested, and this book is largely responsible for that....more info
The most important book for new parents I love my boy so much. I tried so hard to help him sleep. I had no idea what I was doing. I hadn't read a single book on sleep before he was born. Nobody told me it was the most important and hardest part of taking care of a baby. All they said was "you can't spoil a newborn." Well what do you do afterwards? What do you do in the time between 4 weeks and 4 months to help them sleep? Well, what I did was rock him to sleep each and every time. I didn't know what else to do. By the time he was 4 months, he was up every hour all night long. That's every night. I never slept. I was dying, falling apart, disintegrating. How could it be this hard? I'm smart, hardworking, and dedicated to being the best mom possible. And for all that effort, I was just spinning my wheels.
I thought this book was just a cry-it-out manual that I would have to turn to later if I couldn't teach him on my own. I WAS SO WRONG. This is the most important book for taking care of a baby. Sleep is everything. I wish I had known, I wish someone told me. Why don't people talk about this?
Please read this book before your baby is born. I mean really read it, start from page one and read through 9 months. If you follow the rules for months 1-4 you will most likely not have to resort to crying-it-out. And if you do it will be minimal. The 5-9 month section shows you where you are trying to get to. It shows you the blue print for the natural sleep cycle of a baby.
If you are like me...I read the book, was committed to sleep training, but wasn't confident enough to do this alone...then you can call and make an appointment with Dr. Weissbluth. We're lucky because we live in Chicago (his office is here) but he does phone consults if you live out of state. Google his name and you'll find his number.
I can tell from meeting with Dr. Weissbluth that it really bothers him that some people think that he's a heartless beast who wants to make kids cry. He wants kids to sleep. It's so vitally important to their well being and the well being of the entire family. He does not believe that sleep training equals crying it out. He wants people to start from the day the baby comes home to teach the sleep habits that help them sleep well. He does not want children to suffer for the first 4 months, sleep deprived, only to have to go through a week or so of crying to make up for lost time. He titled the book "Healthy Sleep Habits" because that is his focus. He advocates crying-it-out because it is the most direct path from bad sleeping to good sleeping. That's all. He would rather a baby cry for a couple of hours total, then go sleep deprived for months or years.
By the way, babies don't just grow out of it. I was waiting for the magic day my son would just figure it out. Things only got worse.
I have to get the word out. Please read this book.
well rested children I know a lot of parents, some of whose children sleep well, some of whose children do not. 100% of the children who sleep well say they owe it to Dr Weissbluth, many of the others say that method won't work for them "because blah blah blah".
If you follow Dr Weissbluth, you will have a well rested child (and be a well rested parent).
Thank you Dr Weissbluth. You saved our lives!...more info
Best sleep book I used Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child for my first baby with great results. I gave my original copy to my sister for her baby and she has also had great success. I ordered it again to reference for my second baby. ...more info
Didn't work for us For a book targeted to sleep-deprived parents, this book may do more harm than good.
My first complaint is that it could be half as long.
I was initially excited by the lengthy, clear, and well organized table of contents, but the pages referenced in the table of contents often don't correspond to the expected subject matter.
Weissbluth often contradicts himself, and primarily on a central and controversial core message of the book, when to use "cry-it-out." In the beginning he says using the "cry it out" method isn't usually recommended for most babies, but then he spends half the book talking about the cry it out method and all the instances when and why it should be used.
Here is just one example. p. 247: "It is not a good idea to go to your child before 6:00 AM, even if he is crying, because if you do he will begin to force himself to wake up earlier and earlier in order to enjoy your company."
the very next sentence:
"The natural wake-up time seems to be an independent neurological alarm clock in these young infants that is somewhat independent of the part of the brain that puts them to sleep or keeps them asleep."
HUH?? First he makes the claim that if you go to a child before 6 AM you will cause them to wake up even earlier the next day, then he says the child's wake up time is innate and internal.
I did find some of the sleep research fascinating, but it isn't always clear when Weissbluth is citing a referencable and scientific study or interjecting his opinion. I think most of the book is his opinion, and I tend to disagree him after having two very different children (and witnessing many other friend's children and their sleep needs.)
If you are sleep deprived, this is NOT the book to be reading. It will probably just confuse you even more.
In case this is useful information for anyone, I did the horrid "cry-it-out" method exactly as described by Weisbluth with my son for 5 straight days at 6 months and then again at 10 months and his sleep habits didn't improve at all. They only were worse at the end of both terrible experiments and he came down with a bad cold by the end of the week both times. I'm sure it was because he was crying all night, literally, off and on for 5 days and getting at most 6 hours of sleep in a 24 hour cycle.
Fortunately, I found the Hand in Hand Parenting website, which is full of great information (including sleep information) and I think both my son and I have recovered.
I highly recommend their articles (which are free online) and pamplets (which are inexpensive).
Good luck with your sleep issues! Everything passes and changes, no matter what you do (or don't do). ...more info
I love this book!!! My baby sleeps now. A friend sent this book to me and I loved it. I have one child and was having trouble figuring out how to get him to nap regularly and go down at night well. After devouring this book I was hooked and now my child sleeps through the night. We got it when he was 3 months old. It is the best gift we received. I have bought it and recommended this book to friends and have heard positive results from them too....more info
Mom of 2 I think that this book is a "MUST HAVE" for all parents with young children. I have read and followed this book for both of my kids and they both sleep excellent, are very well rested, and are happy children. It is amazing how sleep effects their personalities. I buy this as a shower gifts and have heard from several of the reciepients that they are so happy they had it to reference, it has been a life saver. It is easy to read, reference, and worth every cent!...more info
Finally, my baby sleeps! For the first 5 months of life my baby only took 1 or 2 half-hour naps a day, and woke up often throughout the night. I was soooo exhausted and stressed. It took hours for her to fall asleep for naps, and both of us were miserable. I tried soothing, nursing, crying-it-out, and putting her in a swing, but nothing helped. I didn't realize that even though I thought I was responding to the first signs of tiredness (rubbing her eyes, etc), she was already too tired to fall asleep. Several ideas in this book helped me understand what she needed, and now (at 7 months) she is a happy baby who takes great naps, and only wakes up for one nightly nursing session. I learned the following: She needed a much earlier bedtime, so she now goes easily to sleep at 6:30pm instead of 9 or 10pm. I also learned that babies are ready for their first nap after only being awake for 1-2 hours in the morning. Sure enough, I started putting her down at 8:30am, and after 3 days she started going to sleep without crying. The third thing that helped was discovering that she needs another nap after every 2 hours of awake time. Once implemented, she started sleeping great! Not perfect, but we're all pretty happy with it. I saw some reviewers complain about Weissbluth's advice regarding crying, or sleeping/not sleeping in the family bed, etc. I ignored those parts of the book. The timing advice was where my instinct had been off. The instruction on timing can be adapted for use with most parenting philosophies. ...more info
Cliff-Notes Version, Please I found this book difficult to follow and even more difficult to implement. I don't doubt that Dr. Weisssbluth knows his stuff. A lot of what he says about the importance of sleep makes a lot of sense. But after reading testimonials, graphs, lists and bullet points, I still found myself asking, "But what do I do?" The answers to simple questions were buried under tons of prose. Even his end-of-chapter summaries called "Action Plan for Exhausted Parents" were too long and didn't have any real "actions."
In terms of chapters, the first 196 pages cover sleep problems. If you didn't think your child had a sleeping problem before, you will now. I was completely paranoid I would raise a child that would have sleep problems the rest of his life if I didn't get this right. Then, finally, on page 197, I got some age-appropriate advice. Chapter 5 is Months One to Four with breakdowns for the first eight weeks. Perfect. But then the next chapter is Months Five to Twelve! You get only 63 pages for 8 months of your baby's life.
This is the only sleep book I have read, but surely someone else has come up with a better format for answering parents' basic questions about what to do at the various ages. I truly believe Dr. Weissbluth has all the answers, he just needs a good editor to get them into a readable and followable format. Until then, how about the Cliff Notes version ......more info
AMAZING I felt compelled to write a review about this book...It literally changed the way that I think about sleep. My son was always a good sleeper, and we were very blessed that he started sleeping through the night (9 hours or more!) at just over 2 months of age. That lasted until about 3 months, when he started waking up again. Around that time, he also started fighting taking naps. I would nurse him until he fell asleep, sneak him into his crib, and tiptoe out of the room. If he woke up, all hell broke loose and we started the process over again...It was exhausting, and my poor baby was hardly getting any sleep during the day, unless he slept in my arms. We bought this book when he was 3.5 months old. After ONE night of following the plan exactly as he describes, the bebe is back to sleeping through the night, but now its between 11-12 hours STRAIGHT. He also takes three solid naps a day. I put him in his crib awake, he smiles, finds his thumb, and goes to sleep on his own. It is truly amazing and adorable. He wakes up from naps and bedtime happy and alert, and he actually tells me when he's ready to nap. I've learned how to read his cues, and we can plan the day around his nap needs. Whenever someone tells me that they are shocked at how much he sleeps, I just think to myself that that is how much babies NEED to sleep, it's just that most babies/kids are overly tired.
I highly recommend this book. It gives a lot of detail about why sleep is so important, and it gives information for how to handle the older child who starts waking up again. The first night was hard, we both cried, but after that, things changed for the better. IMMEDIATELY. My 5 month old can even sleep away from home, so it's not like we're attached to his crib. Sorry for the long review, but I hope it is helpful for someone else. And good luck!...more info
Start Early This book has produced a happy 15 month old who capable of telling you when he's ready for a nap or for bed. He will nod his head and say yes when asked if he is ready for "night-night". Hard to believe, but true. Oh - not to mention that he's in bed by 7:00 pm at the very latest every single night and sleeps without waking until 6:30 or 7:00 am each morning. This was no accident - I began reading this book shortly before his birth and was absolutely convinced of the importance of sleep to his growth and well-being. From the first night home in his own bed in his own room, to actively paying attention to his wake/sleep cycles - and month by month expected sleep pattern changes, this book allowed me to give my child the most precious gift possible: restful sleep. By following the information in the book (even though it may have seemed slightly harsh at the time), I have a child who knows when he's tired, is willing and happy to go to bed, falls alseep easily and without crying or protest, and has SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT CONSISTENTLY SINCE HE WAS 4 MONTHS OLD. Not a record by any standard, but 16 weeks of administering the techniques in this book did pay off and have been paying off ever since. BUY this book, READ it, IMPLEMENT the strategies, and you'll have a HAPPY BABY on your hands. Plus more sleep for yourself....more info
Damaging to Children This book suggests that parents let their children cry so hard that if they throw up, it's par for the course. He even suggests that if your baby throws up after crying out for you, that you should just clean it up *but to make sure not to pick the baby up. I don't care how sleep deprived I am, I will never be allowing my child to cry so hard that he throws up. I'd rather spend some time and help my child sleep with more gentle methods. ...more info
worked for us! Dr. Weissbluth is not just a sleep expert to us, but also our pediatrician. His sleep method has helped my son Jonah very much. As a new mother, it really helped me understand how to organize Jonah's daytime and nightime sleep schedule and how important it is for him to have his sleep times match his natural circadian rhythms. I sleep trained Jonah according to the gradual extinction "let cry" method and even though it was excruciating, within four days Jonah was sleeping through the night. He (and we) are all better rested for it! ...more info
Dr. Weissbluth gave me my son back We are blessed to have Dr. Weissbluth as the head of my son's pediatric practice group. I had always follwed his teachings and my little guy was sleeping through the night by 14 weeks. My now 4 year old suffered his first seizure at the age of 11 months. Unfortunately, his episodes are nocturnal only. After 2 years on medication, we were told that with one more EEG he'd be taken off of meds. This was not to be the case. The EEG showed seizure activity again only during sleep. After switching to another medication (that caused horrible mood swings) I decided to have a consultation with Dr. Weissbluth on the off chance that we were really looking at a sleep disorder.
In 30 minutes he determined that my son was operating with a sleep deficit. For 2 weeks we sleep trained him and simply adjusted his bedtime by 30-45 minutes. I have my son back. He's no longer cranky, irritable and whiny. He's more focused during the day and generally a happier boy than he'd been in recent months.
For those who don't believe, just try his methods. My son is living proof that they work....more info
Okay...If you don't know anything about sleep My son's doctor suggested this book for my son's sleeping problem. I was disappointed when I opened it. It has the same stuff my mother has told me: routines, not a lot of activity before bedtime, and so on. It was a waste of money since I already knew everything that is in the book. And the other techniques it suggests are not helpful. Like giving a early bedtime because it says it will "backfire" and they will likely get up ridiculusly early. This book is also too long for me because I don't have a lot of free time which I imagine most mothers don't. Save your money and time, just talk to other mothers or just anyone who knows about it.
My other problem with it is the "put them in the crib and let them cry". I suppose some find that this is okay but I find it more hurtful than helpful (he just gets more and more upset and risks hurting himself). This book suggests putting a pillow on your head so you don't go to your child. Which is silly.
If you have a newborn I would suggest getting "Happiest baby on the block" by Dr. Harvey Karp....more info
An invaluable resource I recommend reading this book before your baby is born. With our first daughter, we were only following "The Baby Book" by Dr. Sears, and while that's a lovely book, it did not offer sleep solutions that worked for us when the family bed stopped working and everyone was sleep-deprived and miserable. We ended up using 3 nights of cry-it-out in order to remove her from our bed; she's been a brilliant sleeper ever since.
With our second daughter, we resolved to use the family bed in the early days, but to be prepared to transition her out of our bed by 5-6 months, or as soon as it stopped working for all of us. Since we'd done this so successfully and (relatively) easily with our first daughter, we didn't do any reading up on the subject. Daughter #2 was a bit more of a challenge, and a friend loaned us Dr. Weissbluth's book, which has been very helpful.
The book is an excellent resource on infant sleep. As others have commented, it is not light reading, nor is it an easy, step-by-step, one-size-fits-all guide to sleep training. However, it helped us refine our strategy and reconfirm our commitment to getting good sleep for our whole family, even if that entailed a few nights' displeasure for a certain tenacious little one. Wish we'd read it before she was born, because I believe it would have made the process even easier with her....more info
Dr. Weissbluth is the best Dr. Weissbluth saved my life! After 9 months of my son not sleeping, I thought I was going to lose my mind. Dr. Weissbluth's advice got him sleeping through the night almost immediately and pretty painlessly. I had tried everything else, and had read every sleep book, but nothing else worked. It's the combination of things that Dr. Weissbluth suggests that works. I highly recommend this book!...more info
Hard To Follow I found the book very hard to follow. My daughter is 6 mos. old and we are researching different opinions to decide how we want to handle her sleep issues. The chapters looked like everything was organized so well, then I started reading it and was totally confused by what the author was saying....I'm moving on to Ferber. ...more info
the book to get on sleeping this book guided me through the very challenging process of sleep training. research based and very helpful as long as you stick to its advice!...more info
It works, not harsh at all reading this book was the best thing I have done for my 6 month old son. he was a very colicky baby with reflux who only slept on our chests. yes, we had no freedom and pretty much played hot potato with him all night and day. he had to be held for naps and would only nap 20-40 min max.i read this book, ferber and no cry sleep solution. no cry actually made our son worse and fussier. we combined ferber and this book and now have a very very happy child who sleeps from 7 pm to 6:30 am waking twice to nurse and takes 45 min to 1 1/2 hour naps. we can put him in bed wide awake and he goes to sleep within 1-15 minutes everytime. at night there is no crying, just feeding and back to bed - in HIS crib! i thought i was a total sears parent, but this has actually made me a happier, healhtier mom with a very happy son. it is not cry it out - it is really "teach your child to sleep." while there was some crying, and it truly hurts to hear your child cry, it did not last long and felt so good to see my son sleep and be well rested. i can make plans during the day and know he will be happy the whole time we are out. ...more info
Great reference for tired parents! I read this book when my first son was 4 months old and found it an invaluable tool for training him to take good naps, sleep through the night, and follow a schedule suited to his needs. Now I'm re-reading it to help with my newborn and his sleep needs. I felt like the stress level in our home went down dramatically when we started implementing the ideas in this book. It is amazing!
I especially like how the author focuses on getting the child in rhythm with his natural sleep patterns. It makes a lot of sense. I felt a lot more comfortable letting my older son "cry it out" when I knew I was following his natural pattern for sleep. Now he sleeps great at night and takes 2-hour naps every day. My newborn is still napping throughout the day, but I feel like I have a much better grasp on when he's tired and when to lay him down. I wish I had owned this book when my first son was a newborn. It would have made life a lot less stressful and eliminated the constant "What's wrong with him?" question!...more info
Practical advice, based on research I appreciated the fact that much of what Weissbluth writes he backs up with research from sleep studies, unlike a lot of parenting books, which don't use actual studies to back up their claims.
I wish I had read his advice on developing a nap-time soothing routine and nighttime sleep routine and being consistent--I could have avoided a lot of crying. After the christmas holidays, my three-month-old was only able to sleep while being held. He couldn't even sleep in his car seat--he would just wail and wail. Even when I did hold him, sometimes he was so tired that he cried for a couple minutes in my sling as I desperately jiggled and patted him. I have to go back to work next week and I was worried about how he would ever get enough sleep at a daycare, where they would not be wearing slings to help him sleep!
So, I developed a quick naptime routine and started it on a Monday: swaddle, rock in rocking chair with shushing and patting until the baby is asleep or almost asleep, then put in his crib on a blanket with a special scent in a darkened room. There was a lot of crying on Monday, which sucked. But I reminded myself of all the crying he did in his car seat when he couldn't soothe himself to sleep. Then on Tuesday he went down for his first nap without any crying. There was still some crying during the later naps but not as much. Wednesday was a miracle--he only cried 3 minutes after I put him down for his 2nd nap, and slept well for all his other naps.
I have only two nitpicks with the book. First, the organization is poor. It is repetitive and occasionally hard to use as a reference book because the information is scattered all over the place, especially the information on months 1-4.
Second, he says that breastfeeding in the family bed does not create sleep problems, but doesn't go into great detail. As someone who has chosen to breastfeed in the family bed, I think he probably means that both mother and baby still get a fair amount of sleep because they never completely wake up. But still, he should really explain this better....more info
The only sleep book you will ever need This book is simply amazing. We got this 5 years ago and still refer to it (when we aren't loaning it out!). It is so complete and thorough you will never need another sleep book again. Some of the material can be dense and even a little dry (like a text book) because it has so much research to back up the suggestions. However, it is well worth it to go through the "why's" at least once for background knowledge. But, if you are a sleep-deprived parent, there are actually summaries at the end of each chapter for your 'quick start' so you can begin implementing strategies. In the beginning there is also an overview where the author suggests what chapters are most crutial to parents by age range so you can begin right away and go back later to read in-depth. This book will have you and your child(ren) sleeping better. The author has strategies whether you have a family bed or cry-it-out, or any number of other popular sleeping situations. The no-cry sleep solutions are the best. I buy this book for each shower I attend....more info