Since the 1992 release of their Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend have heard these three questions rephrased thousands of times. As parents begin to realize the tremendous impact poor boundaries have had on their own lives, their concern naturally extends to their children. How can they help their sons and daughters form healthy boundaries that lead to well-rounded characters and successful adult lives? Now there are answers. Boundaries with Kids helps parents apply the Ten Laws of Boundaries (first described in Boundaries) to the challenges of raising children. In their popular, readable style, Cloud and Townsend help moms and dads make choices and develop a parenting approach that sees beyond the moment to the adults their children will become. For parents who want their kids to escape the struggles they themselves have experienced, here's an in-depth look at how to implement the preventive medicine of character development by establishing sound boundaries starting with the parents. Boundaries with Kids helps moms and dads learn how to -bring control to an out-of-control family life -set limits and still be loving parents -define what legitimate boundaries are in the family -transfer what they are learning as parents to help their children develop healthy boundaries. Illustrating its points with numerous case studies and anecdotes, Boundaries with Kids gives parents the can-do guidance they need in order to model healthy boundaries for their kids. This book may well be the best investment parents will ever make into the lifelong welfare of their children.
Boundaries This is a well needed book in todays society. I being raised by older parents sure benifitted from it. I am listening to it over and over to get it into my making. And really all it is is common sense. KAren...more info
Excellent I bought this for my grandaughter a single parent with 2 children,she received it in record time so is very pleased to read it and start placing more boundaries so the children will grow up well adjusted,accountable and responsible. ...more info
Excellent, if not earth-shattering, information Having read the Boundaries book, I was excited to read this book directed at parents. I was not disappointed. With the same common-sense approach that I found in the original, the authors give encouragement and direction for floundering parents. Since I was already aware of the principles of the book, the greatest benefit to me was the encouragement - the affirmation that my focus and energy were well aimed. I would highly recommend this book to any parent who is not certain that he or she IS the parent - the leader - in his or her home...or any parent who has become confused in light of well-intentioned, but not accurate or Biblical, pop-psychology that encourages a hands-off approach to parenting. This book reminds us that we ALL appreciate boundaries - and children might appreciate them even more than adults do....more info
Wonderful Guide This was one of the most instrumental books in helping me understand the "how" and "why" to parent my children. I have a very practical approach to life and this book help provide "tools" that kept me from becoming the problem. As a parent, I am very interested in character development in my children and this book was a Godsend. The examples used throughout the book are wonderful and really illustrate the concepts in a real life fashion. It has inspired me to share with others through small groups and it always provides an "awakening" in the parents thoughts. This book comes HIGHLY recommended!! Enjoy...it is funny too....more info
Good indepth discussion for your group The workbook is very thorough and does a good job of highlighting the content of the chapter, and providing thought provoking questions. Sometimes there's a bit too much 'rehash' of the chapter before a question, ostensibly to provide context, but most questions are well done. Our group used the workbook and found it stimulating to our thought, effective in creating discussion, and helped us reflect deeply on the book content....more info
This book is making me think! I am only halfway through the book and already I have found it tremendously helpful. It has made me realize that even though there is a lot of instinct involved in parenting I must not just parent on a whim. It must be purposeful and planned with goals set for both my children and myself. I cannot just "let it happen." This book has also made me take a hard look at myself and realize areas where I have faulty thinking and need to work on personal growth. The authors achieve this with a gentle firmness, not making one feel guilty but rather inspired to make the necessary changes. Quote from the book, "Children don't have it in them to grow themselves up. They respond and adapt to how they are parented."...more info
This book changed our lives! At age 13, nothing had worked. My son was stubborn, uncooperative, lying & lazy - at best. My fiancee threw up his hands in disgust & told me I was on my own with this problem. Reading this book and implementing its contents as I went along, has made all the difference in the world! Seeing all I had done wrong in the past (to help create this monster), and having guidelines to follow to correct the set bad patterns - priceless! The book is written clearly & matter-of-factly. It shows where I contributed to my son's poor behavior. It shows compassion for how difficult it is to change our patterns. This book is worth every penny - worth every moment. I now have a cooperative, responsible, cheerful, loving son! & he has a mom who is firm, loving, and VERY happy!...more info
Boundaries With Kids This book has helped my husband and I to not only be on the same page with our dicipline methods but also to really focus on how our 3 kids behaviors right now in the present will affect their future when they are on their own. It has helped us to set boundaries for them and is also teaching our kids to learn to set firm boundaries on their own with their lives. I had yet to find a book on raising children that is so clear and effective and really guides you through how to be an effective parent for the good of your kids future. I also highly recommend the book "Raising Great Kids" which is by the same authors....more info
Awesome Book On How To Deal With Kids This book is great with young kids. I have a toddler and an infant and tried some of the suggestions in the book and it has helped me better deal with my daughter. I can't say how it would work on teenagers, but I have found Cloud's/Townsend's books on marriage, mom's, and boundaries in general to be very good.
If you have children, this book along with the Boundaries book are excellent books to assist in raising children with healthy self-esteems. These books help you set appropriate boundaries in your relationships, which empowers rather than enables. I love the examples they give about the various types of boundaries we need to have. It reinforces what they are talking about.
Their suggestions are very practical and realistic....more info
A book to refer to often This book has been very useful for me in parenting my 3 children. I have reread it several times to refresh my memory and find it to be useful for parents of young children. ...more info
Boundaries with Kids Book is in excellent condition and was on time. Thank you for a great product and great service....more info
A must read for any parent I read Boundaries first and someone gave me Boundaries with Kids. Just like the 1st Boundaries book it changed my life. I have a 5 year old and it helped me in so many area's. I give Boundaries and Boundaries with Kids to my friends and they just can't believe what they are reading. A MUST read!!...more info
Great book - suggestions easy to implement - very realistic I got this book on audio tape because I travel a lot in my car. Out of the 5-6 books I have listened to over the past 3-4 months this was one of my favorites if not the favorite. Good suggestions, most easy to implement others harder because it is sometimes hard to let our kids learn some things on their own. I think using the principals in this book will help kids with their own confidence because they unterstand their own boundries better and will learn how staying wthin those boundries can be very rewarding and boost pride with the end result....more info
Great advice I suffered from terrible verbal abuse as a child, and now as a mother have had a very difficult time seeing our daughter in any pain. This book has helped me to understand more clearly that true, Christ-like love gives us the strength to help our children to live assertively, and that while we work to protect them from harm, to try to protect them from every day life and consequences hurts them significantly more in the long run. It did a great job of teaching how to parent with high though realistic expectations of your children, while always giving them the unconditional love and encouragement that they need to have happy, successful lives. ...more info
The instruction book that should have come with our kids! I never experienced boudaries in my home growing up so this book has been an eye-opener for me. I have been looking for a book to change the dysfunction my family has passed down for generations. This book is exactly what I have been looking for in regards to practical suggestions that are based on love, the Bible, and raising a happy, emotionally healthy child. I highly recommend!...more info
Teaching healthy relationships... At first it may seem inappropriate to have "boundaries" with kids, since they're so dependent on us for everything at the beginning. But it really is important for children to learn early on that they should respect the needs of others around them, and that it's not acceptable to focus only on their own needs, just as it's not acceptable for a mom or dad to focus only on the child's needs. Even very young children (my kids are 1.5 and 3) can learn that it's not nice to yell and scream every time they want a cookie before dinner, or that people are much more likely to happily cooperate when you say "please."
Teaching healthy boundaries to a small child sets the stage not only for her respecting other people's boundaries, but also for her demanding that others respect her own boundaries. Isn't that what being a 2-year-old is all about? Learning that she exists separate from Mommy, and that her desires are important, too?
In this book, Dr. Cloud helps you understand how to encourage your child's natural exploration of her own desires and needs *in the context of* relationship with everyone else around her. A child doesn't live in a vacuum, and it's good for her as well as good for everyone around her when she starts to develop a healthy sense of how to balance her own fleshly desires with a respect for others' needs. It gives her a sense of security to know that the well-being of the universe doesn't depend on her own happiness....more info
great audio tape- very well narrated. Becasue I travel in my car so much I listen to a lot of books on tape. This is one of the best I have ever listened to. It was very REAL and the authors related right on with the feeling of parents. Even though it was obvious the authors came from a christian background (as do I) the book did not make that the basis of the book. The book gave real solutions to existing problems and great advice on fixing situations so other problems do not arise in the future. Some of the ideas and principles are tough to stomach as a parent but have worked miraclously(sp) with my 2 year old.
The book so good I bought 3 copies for friends and my brother. I also bought their other book on boundries in marriage which I am looking forward to listening to soon....more info
Boundaries with Kids GREAT!!!!! I only wish that I had read this book when my children were toddlers. If children came with a book, this would be the one. As parents, our ultimate goal should be to raise responsibile independent adults. This book gives a whole new perspective on parenting. Highly recommended....more info
Just OK I finished reading the book in no time. There are several interesting stories in this book. However, many opinions listed in this book are just common sense to me....more info
Deserves AT LEAST 6 stars! This is by far the most amazing parenting book I have EVER read. I have a two year old and an infant and feel much better prepared to raise them to serve God in their lives.
I can't stop talking to my friends about how practical, simple, and easy-to-apply the principles of this book are - I'm reading the book again because it is so full of great information that I have to absorb it for a second time.
I do believe that this book has to be put into practice BEFORE a child reaches their teen years, simply because that is a time when children become adults and it could be more difficult to apply boundaries only if you have not started the boundaries when they were young. If your child is a teen already, this book might just frustrate you because it will make you wish you had started earlier...just to be honest....more info
The best book after the Bible Makes me think, cry and gives me hope....good luck...more info
a great book for parenting through all ages and stages! I read this book before I had my son, and I loved it. I am a child counselor, and I would put this on my recommended reading list for parents because it is very comprehensive. Now that I am actually a parent, I appreciate it even more. I think it is a wonderful, Biblical perspective on parenting. I especially appreciate its views on power and control - so helpful with a two year old! I've reminded myself hundreds of times "don't engage in the protest," and it helps keep everyone much calmer and situations get worked through more quickly. Definitely a "must read!"...more info
Good book Great book with excellent advice. Boundaries - how very simple but so lacking these days. It does have biblical verses all throughout, so if you're Bible shy, these may annoy you. ...more info
Boundries with Kids Excellent practical advise. Similar philosophy to Love and Logic parenting books which I also love. I highly recommend this book for parents wanting to improve or wanting reinforcement that they are doing well....more info
Reality Based Though I'm still in the process of reading this book I'm impressed and inspired on the honesty and directness of Boundaries with Kids. This book gives an entirely different approach and reason for setting boundaries with children. It also gives a different approach and reason for adults to set boundaries with themselves. My understanding of what a personal boundary is and how to use it has given me empowerment. ...more info
The Best Parenting Book Out This is without a doubt the best parenting book I have ever read! I am a Pastor and a Foster Parent and have greatly benefitted by putting these principles into practice. I know if these principles work with kids who are troubled and come from broken homes, they will work with any children.
I especially appreciate the way the authors emphasize how teaching children boundaries when they are young will set them up for success as adults. They focus on the value of teaching children life lessons while the cost is low so they don't have to learn them as adults when the cost is so much greater. I would recommend this book to anyone with kids regardless of their age....more info
Boundaries With Kids -# 1 Parenting Book!!! I have to say that this book is absolutely my favorite parenting book thus far (and I have read many!) As a Christian parent attempting to do the best I can with the 3 beautiful kids that God has entrusted to me-this book has been the most helpful in giving practical insights and advise with how to deal with the day-to-day challenges of raising great kids. I love the understanding that is imparted as to healthy child developement and the encouragement and inspiration this book infuses to its readers. Parenting for Teens is also an amazing book - My oldest child is an 11 yr old girl and this book is chalk full of great advise to learn and implement as your kids are approaching their teen years-not just applicable if your kids are older!...more info
Boundaries with Kids They say that kids don't come with instructions...well now they do!!! This book is a must read for parents, grandparents, teachers etc etc.. Excellent!...more info
Good Advice, Annoying Bible References The advice given in the book was good, and a lot of good points were made, but I found the constant references to the Bible very annoying. I am not a religious person, and wouldn't have minded a few references, but it was a little too much for my liking. It read more like a sermon, and I didn't realize that when I had purchased it....more info
Advice for Raising Responsible Children Another credit to Cloud & Townsend! I've recognized both positive and NEGATIVE parenting styles I've developed over the years. With prayerful reading the negative styles are being transformed into positive parenting styles, which already are bearing great results in my relationship with my children.