|The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from Birth to Age 5
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Two experts who are helping Hollywood's A-list babies get their zzz's share the no-fail, family-friendly method that has helped thousands of sleep-deprived moms and dads.
Even Hollywood's biggest stars face the same dilemma as other parents do: "How do I get my child to sleep?" As parents in the know are finding, whether they're on the red carpet or the soccer field, the answer is the same: The Sleepeasy Solution.
Psychotherapists and sleep specialists Jennifer and Jill, the dynamic "girlfriends" all of Hollywood calls on to solve Junior's sleep problems, have perfected their sleep technique that will get any child snoozing in no time—most often in fewer than three nights. The key to their method? It addresses the emotional needs of both the parent and child (yes, how to handle the crying!)—a critical component of why most other sleep methods fail.
In this much-needed, family-friendly guide, weary parents will learn to define their own individual sleep goals, those that work for their family's schedule and style. They'll create a customized "sleep planner" to ensure consistency with both parents as well as extended caregivers. (As an added bonus, they'll even improve the readers' relationships with their spouses with the "marriage-saver" section.) With comprehensive sections devoted to each stage of Baby's and Toddler's development, plus solutions to special circumstances like traveling, daylight saving's time, moving to a "big kid bed" and multiples, The Sleepeasy Solution is a dream come true!
"This approach was truly amazing in helping our family to thrive. . . . We are eternally grateful!"
—Ben Stiller and wife, Christine Taylor, actors
"With their gentle approach, Sleepeasy gave us the tools we needed to solve our daughter's sleep problems."
—Conan O'Brien, host of NBC's Late Night with Conan O'Brien
"Sleepeasy gave us all the tools we needed to get our baby sleeping through the night. Now when we say good night to our daughter, we know it really will be a good night."
—Greg Kinnear, actor
- Helpful and Comforting
Our baby is not an easy sleeper and was having trouble falling and staying asleep. She was also not taking regular naps and this was really affecting her disposition during the day. This book made me feel comfortable with the idea of sleep training and in one night she learned how to fall asleep fast and sleep through the night. The naps have also improved dramatically. When my baby gets enough sleep she is happy and energetic throughout the day and that has made everyone in the house happy. I would recommend this book to anyone who is completely sleep-deprived, as I was, and is ready to help their baby get the rest she needs....more info
- Success by the 4th night!
As a first time Mom, with a baby that has had tummy issues since birth, her Dad and I have been very protective and we never let her cry more than a few short minutes. After all, comforting and soothing your baby is our #1 responsibility as parents. She never slept well and we moved a bed into her room and took turns sleeping in her room every night so we could tend to her when she woke, which was about every 3-4 hours.
Now that she is 7-months old and 20 pounds, and her tummy problems are almost resolved, we realized that we needed to get some help so we could all function better. After researching for weeks, we choose this book and read it cover to cover. It made sense and offered solid support. We made sure she was in good health, and not teething and gave it a try.
I was hoping for some relief but I honestly was not expecting it to work. I committed to trying it for 5 days and if it didn't work, I was just going to deal with it. I won't lie. The first night was awful! She fussed and cried for 1 hr, and then screamed her head off for 58 min after that. I was a nervous wreak the next day and called my Dr. to ask if I was scarring her by letting her cry. He said no, and that it was important for her to learn to sooth herself. The 2nd night, she cried for only 40 min. The 3rd night she cried for about 20 min but slept 11 hours!!!! I had to wake her the next morning when we had to get going. She's been sleeping for 11 hours, on her own, for a week now!
This book is a treasure. We have a totally different baby now! One that is happy, rested, and feels safe and secure in her crib, on her own. I recommend this to anyone who is struggling. Follow it exactly as explained, try to look beyond those first difficult nights, and give it a chance.
Although this book is well written and sympathetic to parents who are at the end of their rope, the methods contained in the book did not work for us. We were co-sleeping (against our better judgement) with our 11-month old, because it was the only way to get more than 1 hour of sleep at a time. He is a frequent night-waker. As the book suggested, we began the first night of the program by extending the bedtime routine and placing him in the crib drowsy, but awake. He screamed bloody murder for 1 hour and 55 minutes before finally giving up and going to sleep. The "check-ins" that the book reccomended only seemed to make him madder and more frustrated. He woke up at 2am and screamed for another 1 hour. We are now 7 days into the program and every night since has been about the same as the first. We are very discouraged and disappointed....more info
- Perfect Sleep Learning
As soon as my daughter completed 4 months we used the sleep learning method from this book and it was amazing! She used to sleep very poorly and after she learned to sleep by herself she became a great sleeper.
I strongly recommend this book, it has really changed my life!
My baby sleeps for 11 hours straight at night, and has 3 naps during the day....more info
- It DOES work --- I will give this to every expectant parent I know
I have a 10 month old son (our first child), who was always a good little sleeper. For the first 8 months he would wake up a couple of times a night and require a quick bottle feed, but would go right back to sleep. This changed --- he started waking up, crying and expecting a bottle 4-5-6 times a night. The bottle was the only thing that would calm him. Needless to say, my husband and I were sleep-deprived wrecks.
What I didn't realize, though, was our son was also a sleep-deprived wreck. We needed to help him and this book taught us how to do it. Step-by-step. My son slept through the night in 6 days. Really. It wasn't as hard as I expected -- our longest crying jag wasn't on the first night (that was 22 mins right when we put him down.), but on night 2 when he woke up at 11:00 pm -- that was the longest at 57 mins. It was very hard, but it's a controlled process, checking in, reinforcement, loving words (and there will be crying no matter what you do).
After that, typically no crying or "fuss noises" under 5 minutes. What makes this so wonderful, is that he is feeling better....happy, focused, interactive, talkative, laughing.
It's a great product....more info
- the best baby sleep book
my 12 month old slept through the night from 1 month but around 3 months, started getting up at night. on a good night, she'd wake 3 times. on average, it'd sometimes be 6-8 times. we were against letting her crying it out so we were constantly holding her, rocking her, nursing her or hovering over her crib, patting her back to sleep. she'd wake up a few minutes later and cry and we'd have to do it all over again. i thought i was going insane. there were many times i even resented my baby. i was delirious from sleep deprivation and felt positively psychotic. we tried dr sears' method, the pantley book, the sleep lady book and read weissbluth. the first three just did not work. my baby did not respond at all to their methods because they still rely on you to get your baby to sleep. pantley's method was phasing them out from you patting them to you using cue words. i wish my baby could go to sleep just by my speaking to her, even when she is screaming at the top of her lungs, but it didn't work.
and weissbluth is overloaded with information and is hard to get through when you're tired and feeling crazy. it's also a little confusing. this book is short, simple and easy to understand. their service is wonderful. i had a question about night waking and they emailed me back within 24 hours. i LOVE THIS BOOK!
my daughter cried for an hour straight the first night. it was brutal but my husband and i just read through the cry 411 over and over. it reminded us that we were doing the right thing and that this was what we all needed. today is the 2nd night and she went down in 35 minutes. the naps are still hard but the book tells you how to deal with it.
just try this book. if my daughter can make it, so can your child. i never ever in my wildest dreams thought i'd be able to get her to go down without nursing and rocking. but she only woke up 3x last night and put herself down in less than 30min. it is nothing short of a miracle!
you will be sleeping more in just one night.
what i've learned through all my research is that babies need consistency, routine and self soothing skills to be able to sleep long and well. but the self-soothing often can't be achieved without a few tears, only because babies don't like change .. and it only makes sense that they'll protest it. but giving your family the gift of sleep is one of the best you can give.
this book saved my relationship with both my child and spouse and i am so much happier. ...more info
- info you can easily find on internet
disappointing. all info in book available in obvious advice on internet. i liked the dr sears book better. As it turns out my child outgrew her sleep problems. go figure!...more info
- Some great ideas!
I ordered this book out of pure desperation over my 4 month old would not sleep and had to be constantly held, rocked, nursed (we did it all!) to fall asleep. What I have taken from this book: My son now takes 3-4 naps a day that last about an hour. The length should improve as he gets older. The first night was the hardest but after crying for 30 minutes (with several check ins) he fell asleep. Ever since he has been able to fall asleep when I put him down with very little fuss or none at all. It's been less than two weeks since I started the program but I have seen great improvement! I now also have
a set schedule of bathing, pjs and nursing before I put my baby down at 7pm every night. It's wonderful because it really frees up my evening.
Unfortunately my baby still wakes up 3-4 times a night and doesn't sleep longer than 3 hours straight. The book recommends weaning night feedings by eliminating the length of the feeding by two minutes each night. I tried it for a few days but was too exhausted (and couldn't stand hearing my baby cry!) so I stopped. I will make an attempt to wean one feed at a time in a few months when I feel my baby is able to go through the night without eating. Honestly, I would be happy with at least 6 hours of straight sleep, let alone 12!
It is the first baby book that I purchased and I'm glad I did. It is still a CIO method though but I have adjusted that to our needs and feel comfortable with letting my baby "fuss" when I want him to go back to sleep or fall asleep.
I will update soon with progress. Good luck sleepy parents!...more info
- Wonderful Book
This book saved my husband and I. After five months of rocking, feeding, swaddling, walking the floors, shushing, patting, co-sleeping, and crying we finally have a son that goes down quietly in less than 5 minutes!! It use to take 1-2 hours and he would cry the whole time no matter what we did! I was always one of those mothers that thought that the CIO method of sleep training was horrible and cruel, until I realized that the only horrible and cruel thing was my son having to endure two exhausted parents who were beginning to fight too often. It literally took him three days to catch on, and on the first night he cried on and off for 20 minutes. That's a lot less than he would cry WITH our assistance! I never thought that my spirited child would ever catch on so quickly, and actually enjoy going to bed. This book was easy to read, had a sensitive tone, and encourages parents to follow their instincts. I will recommend this book to everyone I know....more info
This book changed our lives! On the brink of emotional breakdown and insanity from sleep deprivation, we tried this book. Our baby now sleep through the night without a peep. This book offers sounds advice to harried parents who need a break from their babies. After both of us read it in entirety, we consulted it nightly when we needed extra support during the sleep learning. What a world of difference it has made! This book offers advice on night weaning, eating out of habit during the night, tackling those daytime naps, when to know when your child should be getting tired and many other pitfalls that new parents famously fall in. Now all three of us are happier and well-rested. Two cons: this book doesn't seem to understand breastfeeding and offer some advice that is just not true. Also, it's advice on how to get your baby to nap at daycare is lacking and could use some expanding. Not all daycare providers can provide a "nap routine" (quiet play, book, etc.), a dark and quiet room for naps. It just doesn't happen! ...more info
- Excellent Resource!
This book was very easy to read and their methods are easy to implement. My husband and I were nervous about putting our son to bed awake, but following the advice given in the book and just having it nearby for support helped temendously. It gave us the confidence we needed to see that we (and my son!) could really do this. It's been a long time since we've had some good sleep - it's nice to have it back!...more info
- Life Saver
This book has changed mine and my husband's life. Our little one is nearly 8 months old and we used to be in with her sometimes 8 to 10 times a night! I have been using this plan for almost 3 weeks now and our baby sleeps from 7:30pm to 7:00am with no hassle. Everyone will have different "crying" experiences but she only cried for 18 minutes the first night, 22 the next two and then we had no problems!! Naps are still not going so great but they do take longer and we will keep at it. The book is so easy to follow and, not only that, but I emailed a question to the website and got an answer back from one of the authors 2 days later - very impressive. If your child is not sleeping, you have got to try this book....more info
- Not for babies less than 4 months old
The name of the book is the Sleepeasy Solution--The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep from BIRTH to Age 5. I have a 4 week old and will be returning to work in 4 more weeks. I'm desperate for sleep because my little one stays awake all night. For example, last night, she was awake from 1am to 6am, and many nights are worse than that. So when I found this book on the internet with such great reviews, I ordered it and paid for next day shipping. When the book arrived, I quickly read it, only to read that birth thru 3 months, there is nothing that can be done about the sleep. The book explains that sleep training cannot begin until baby is 4 months old, because a baby birth to 3 months will sleep when she wants to sleep. I wouldn't have bothered buying the book, and I sure wouldn't have paid for overnight shipping, had I of known that the book couldn't help my 4 week old....more info
- Sleep Problems Solved!
This book solved our 5 month old baby's napping problems. Until we read this book, we could not get our baby to take naps of more than 20 to 30 minutes. She slept fairly well at night with one feeding at around 3 a.m., but she simply was not getting enough total sleep. This book helped tremendously by teaching us WHEN to put the baby down for sleep. It did take some crying, but I truly believe it was okay, because the baby now likes going in for naps and going to bed. She goes to bed at night without a peep, and she only mildly protests for a few mintues before her naps. Her naps now last 1-2 hours and she takes at least 2 per day. Sometimes she even goes down for naps without so much as a whimper. She is now getting all the sleep she needs -- 11 hours per night with no breaks, and 2-3 hours per day of napping. What a relief! The doctor will be happy and we are definitely happy at home. The baby is peacefully napping as I write this review. ...more info
- It really works! I promise!
When my daughter was about 6 1/2 mths, I was absolutely ready to throw in the towel with her naps (which never happened in the crib). I was at my wit's end and could only get her to nap if my husband or I drove her around in the car. After reading countless books (from Weissbluth to the Baby Whisperer to the No Cry Sleep Solution, etc.) and soliciting advice, nothing worked! My daughter would continue to not nap well -- and definitely not in her crib.
One day, I decided to go back to the drawing table one final time and looked on amazon. I found this book and was very impressed with the countless positive reviews on the website. I had the highest hopes when I ordered the book, but I was worried that this book wouldn't work for her either.
I'm pleased today, in less than a week, she miraculously began to nap in
her crib -- and nap really well!! And, this is after a month of following the book's practices. Granted, I'm guessing there will be bumps in the road, but to be able to have my daughter learn how to soothe herself to sleep during the day is such a wonderful thing for both her and her parents!! And, she's so much happier because of it!!
I've actually never written a review for amazon before, but had to share my experiences on this book. This book never made me feel that I was an inadequate parent for having struggles accomplishing this. This book is also clearly defined, easy to follow and do-able! And, best yet -- it really works!...more info
I was looking to try anything to get our 8 month old to sleep at night. This was a last hope purchase. It was AMAZING. Within 3 nights our little guy was sleeping for 8 1/2 hours. I am a true believer in this system....more info
- Good but wait until child over 6 mths
I was desperate to sleep and bought this book. It has great ideas and I think works. When I originally bought the book, I was living in a hotel due to a move and a lot of changes were going on in our lives. Now we live in our new home and we are in a routine. This has helped a lot. Our baby has his own schedule so I have had to wait until he was past 6 months old and all the changes have settled down. During growth spurts they will need to feed at night, so it's good to be a little flexible until you know that they can make it thru the night.
Original review wrote in April 2008.
Update July 2008.
IT WORKS - I waited until we were settled and he was eating some solids. This book WORKED to the day. I am still amazed. The first night he was suppose to sleep without waking/crying he did and has been ever since. I am now able to sleep..... He does wake occasionally (once a night, if I hear it) and makes a noise but goes right back to sleep on his own now. YES !!
He was and still is a happy baby, so this technique did not change his disposition....more info
- Just another cry it out book
The title is misleading; no type of sleep training is easy. This book presents a method of controlled crying to get your child to sleep. This method seems to work for some babies and some parents, but I did not feel it was right for our son and had good success with other methods....more info
- Great choice for sleep-deprived parents and babies
This book is a godsend! Our baby, initially a great sleeper, began sleeping less and less at night starting around 3 months. My pediatrician told me at our 4-month visit that 4 months is a great time to begin helping baby learn how to sleep, so we bought this book and began following their approach. And it worked like a charm! Our son is now 5 months old and he regularly sleeps 11 hours each night and naps regularly 3 times a day. He's finally getting the sleep he needs, and so am I! Not only that, but I followed the book's advice for how to gradually wean our baby off of night feedings (he's a breastfeeder) and that has worked well too. He gets all the milk he needs during the daytime now, with no feedings at night except a dreamfeed before I go to bed. I'm glad we began teaching him how to sleep at 4 months, and that we found a book that is so warm and supportive in tone, and so practical and clear in their directions. If you're nervous about the so-called "cry it out" approach, this book will help you see why it's important to teach baby to sleep on his own, and how to do it in a loving way. By the way, I have the Sears book and debated about using their approach to sleep, but I'm very happy I went with the Sleep Easy Solution instead. ...more info
- your baby and you will be sleeoing easy in NO TIME
this is my first time writing a review for a book, but I am so effected by this book, that I had to do this. This book has changed my life in 48 hours. My daughter will be 5 months old tomorrow. When she was born - she was an excellent sleeper. By the time she was 3 months, she was falling asleep on my breast at 830pm (I would put her in her crib) and then she would wake up to eat at 5am - and then sleep again for a few hours. I thought I was set... but it ALL changed when she was 4 months. I found that she started sleeping less and I was holding her alot more. I knew this was not good. I wanted my daughter to be able to sleep independently. As her mom, I felt I was doing her such a disservice by not helping her learn how to sleep better.
It got to the point where my baby was waking up every hour, unless I held her. Then I went on my search to find a solution. After reading all the reviews the sleepeasy solution seemed like it would work for my daughter. I knew she had it in her to sleep well... she just needed some guidance. I got the book... started reading it... and then heard the voices in my head. I would tell myself ... no she's too young, it's ok ... I can sacrifice my sleep and just hold her all night. Then there was the night that even while I was holding her she would wake constantly (every hour) and cry. That day - I read the entire book, and when my husband got home from work - I laid out the plan. He was nervous. That entire day i had major anxiety... but I decided.. I was gonna give it a shot for 5 days. night time came and we did the plan. fed her some rice cereal, gave her a nice massage, a warm bath, played with her for a few minutes... nursed her and in the crib she went. Before I put her in her crib I told her what was happening. then i sat outside her room so worried. she played for 5 minutes and cried for 10... and she was asleep. She woke a couple of times during the night and cried for a couple minutes and just fell back to sleep. I dreamfed her twice just so she'd have a little extra comfort that night... morning came... and she woke up SO HAPPY. it was beautiful! i was nervous about the naps.. and originally thought, I'll teach her how to sleep at night, but I'll still nurse her to sleep for naps... but in the morning for her first nap, I gave it a shot. I nursed her, put her in her crib and she was gone in 8 minutes!! 7 minutes for her second nap.... and 6 for her third. i wanted to share her first 24 hours so that people know tha tour babies can do it! they want to do it! It's been less than 48 hours and feel like a new person. All I am saying is that it's worth a shot... just tell yourself it's only for 5 days!! and if it doesn't work, you can go back to your old ways. she's only 5 months, but every time she wakes up, we tell her how proud we are of her and her accomplishments. I know that I am giving her skills that will help her for the rest of her life. This books is very motivating and helps you have the strength to do it! It's an easy read. I read it one morning and afternoon and had my plan by the evening... and my daughter put herself to sleep that night. She slept amazing and it showed the next day. Hope this helps!!
- I can't say enough good about this book! I'll try to get to the point...
Reasons why I WAS skeptical for anything other than attachment/Sears philosophy:
1. I have what the pediatrician has called "high needs"/intense/"spirited" baby. Didn't want to withhold what she needed but HAD to do something differently. Everyone in the house was crying by trying to AVOID the crying.
2. My baby was only 4.5 months when we initiated this plan. I thought that IF we ever did something parent driven, she would need to be much older. I think we did this at the perfect time - had we waited, I'm certain she would have regressed even more due to the lengths we went to to make her sleep (the song and dance got harder and harder each night due to her dependence on it).
3. I have read a total of 6 sleep books out there - all which have good characteristics that sounded less cruel but simply DID NOT work for us. I realize that no plan works for every family, but this was our ticket.
4. My child had to be moving all of the time. She squirmed during feeding/rocking/etc. Anything that called for no motion had to be impossible.
How it all went down, and what I would recommend for you if you tried it:
1. Read it first and have a plan. Don't do any sleep plan willy-nilly. If you are doing anything out of desperation or immediate reaction to frustration, you will not be able to be consistent or use your best judgement for the overall picture of your child's sleep issues. Be prepared!
2. Be consistent.
3. Have support from husband or friend - any "cry it out" method is hard, but this one is so emotionally supportive and encourages parents that this is truly training your child to be independent WITH your love and support.
4. Be patient -my baby cried for about 35 min the first night, 20 the 2nd, and <1 the 3rd. I am still amazed.
She woke up the morning after our first night and cooed and laughed in her crib for about 30 min! She goes down for naps (and did on day 2) with her eyes open and only whimpers for about 30 seconds.
Other benefits we've seen:
1. Overall less fussy - less squirmy, intense, uncomfortable appearing. I suppose her "colic" was due to a constant state of chronically being overtired
2. Now a terrific feeder! I suppose due to being more happy and rested. This has allowed us to get into more of a routine and takes the guesswork out of when she is hungry/tired/etc.
3. Nobody is crying anymore (ie - mom and dad getting rest and able to enjoy wake time with our precious child so much more)
4. She has been able to independently play with her toys and not always cry when we put her down on her gym/swing/etc.
5. Awake time is so fun now! What wonderful bonding, snuggling we have now that she isn't such a crab and I have the energy to play with her!
I could write FOREVER about this book. After the 1st night, I have been telling my friends that I am now a new mom, and my daughter is a new baby!...more info
Finally my baby is sleeping! I have tried everything (including the no-cry sleep solution book) and nothing was working -- talk about 1 am car rides to try to get him to sleep, rocking, nursing, rocking some more, white noise, co-sleeping... I've done it all. I found this book by chance and it has saved us. This is night #7 and he only cried 30 seconds, then went to sleep. It's a miracle. I checked out all the other books but non were as straight forward (who has time or patience to read single spaced books on sleep training?!). I've never written a review before, but felt compelled to write one b/c this book is a gem. I couldn't bring myself to have my baby soothe himself for naps yet, but it's like a switched went off, b/c he now actually naps for 1-2 hours at a time (not the usual 15 mins.). BUY THIS BOOK if you're an exhausted parent like I was....more info
- Best thing we ever did!
I found this book when my son was only 2 months old as I wanted to learn more about baby sleep habits and when it would be okay for him to sleep through the night. I waited until all the criteria for sleep training were met and we followed the book word for word when he was about 5 months. It took about 4 days before he was sleeping completely through the night (and that was because it took 3 days to wean him from nighttime feedings. My son is now 13 months and still sleeping great! He knows how to get himself to sleep and how to settle himself down if he wakes in the night. My husband and I still say that we don't know what we would have done without this book and the effective sleep training guidance it provided. Life is so much better with a little sleep and not just for us... our boy is happier too. I will recommend this book forever!...more info
- Finally, a baby sleep book to tackle subjectivity!
I have three sons under the age of 6, and I can tell you that most sleep books on the market (and there is a bewildering variety) offer a sort of cook book approach that fits some baby personalities but not others - and then, they usually fail to grapple with the really tricky issues that come up in managing baby sleep, such as fear, teething, separation anxiety and other subjective factors that inhibit the simpleminded "recipe" for child sleep. Well, NOT ANY MORE - now we have a great resource for us sleep deprived parents. This book lets you put an effective sleep plan in to place but also balance all those other subjective issues that can jumble the best of intentions. I strongly recommend this book....more info
- It's a miracle
I have literally read what seems to be every "baby sleep" book on the market. I was at my wits end as to how to get my 7 month old (20 lbs) baby to sleep through the night. I knew she could do it, but I didn't know how to do it.
We tried to let her cry it out, since it seemed like everyone I talked to had done it. But after a few days and hours of crying, I knew it wasn't working. And it was hard on everyone. Then came this book. After I read it I knew it was for us.
Our 7 month old woke up 2x per night for 8-9oz of milk each feeding. She never woke up for 1-2oz or just to be cuddled. She ate 1/2 of her daily milk intake between the hours of 9pm and 7am. So, I felt like CIO was starving her. This book helps you to wean your baby off of their feedings. We started with the weaning on the first night, decreasing her normal bottle size by 1 oz. One night she cried (whimpered) for 45 minutes. Then went back to sleep. Another night (the night that the 2nd feeding was dropped to 0 oz), she whined off and on for 3 hours. That was the only hard night that we had, thankfully. She wasn't hungry, but was so used to waking up for food that I think she got mad that things were changing. Each night we decreased her food by 1 oz per bottle. And during the day she miraculously ate a little bit more each day. I couldn't believe it. We tried to "pump her full of food" during the day before, but she wouldn't eat!
Now, 1 week later, we are all sleeping peacefully. For the past 3 nights, she has slept 12 hours without waking up once. She eats ALL of her needed milk during the day. Even writing this, I can't believe that it actually worked. She wakes up happy, eats well, and we are all better rested. I'm so glad that I chose this method.
Now, onto my suggestions and changes to the book:
--It tells you to work on the naps at the same time as the night sleep. That didn't work for us. She was still needed longer naps and the book's schedule didn't work until she was actually sleeping 12 hours at night. Now we are working on a flexible nap schedule.
--Our baby could already put herself to sleep before we started this program. We don't need to rock her or give her a bottle. We put her in the crib with a pacifier, and she lulls herself to sleep. We taught her to do this months ago. If your baby cannot do that, I would suggest teaching them that first (using the method of your choice) and then working on weaning them off of milk. I think it might be too hard to do it at the same time.
--Make sure and track how much your baby is eating during your current routine. Then, continue to track it during this program. The program suggests this, but I found it most important during the final stages of the weaning because I had to make sure she was getting enough milk during the day.
If your baby takes full meals during the night, TRY THIS BOOK! It was the only book that I read that addressed the issue of full meals at night and I'm grateful to the author's! Also - no matter which method you choose, do what you feel is best for your baby. I started thinking that 'whatever the books says, I have to do'. All babies are different and what works for some, might not for others. Change the program to fit your baby. Good luck!...more info
- So happy I found this book!
After 7 months of getting up at least once, and more often twice, a night, this book was a lifesaver! It was logical advice with easy to follow step-by-step instructions, and though I bought it to help get my baby to sleep, it soon became helpful when my toddler transitioned to a "big boy bed." I would highly recommend this to all sleep-deprived parents! ...more info
- Great Techniques!
I strongly recommend this book, just having it in the house seemed to help us even before we read it! Lots of useful ideas. I'd always rather read a book that provides solutions instead of complaining about what is wrong....more info
- This is the book that helped my baby thrive into toddlerhood!
This book gave us the tools to give our 6 month old a positive, long term solution to bedtime and naptime. He wouldn't do either one without our constant help and lots of crying. Now he sleeps 12 hours through the night with no assistance and no crying. He goes down for 3 hour naps singing and jabbering to himself. What a different world!It truly worked in just 3 nights and 3 days , and lasts for years. If something such as teething or illness gets you off track, usually takes 1 night to reprogram and be back on track to easy, happy sleep time. The approach is gentle and logical for parents who want a program that helps their baby learn to sleep on their own so that they can thrive, as well as the family. This was the 3rd sleep book we tried, and it was the first one that we felt really comfortable with.The only one that worked! Our baby is 18 months now and we have an 8 week old. Thank goodness for this book--we are thriving as a family!!...more info
- Finally sleeping thanks to a program that made sense for our family.
At our 7 month check up with our pediatrician, she asked if our baby was sleeping through the night and when we said, "No," she told us to just let him "cry it out" for a few nights and we wouldn't have to worry about it any more. While my husband was willing to do whatever the doctor recommended, I was not comfortable with a "cry it out" approach. I had read Sears and believed I should be able to deal with getting up two and three times each night despite working full-time outside of the house. A couple of months passed and the sleeping got worse rather than better and the strain on our marriage and family due to the lack of sleep hit a breaking point over the holidays. I spoke to a high school friend who had personally counseled with Jennifer and highly recommended the program. I was familiar with what she went through, so I decided to buy the book and dvd and find out what it was all about. After reading the book, I started to watch my baby at night and how he just could not figure out how to fall asleep on his own. He/we had always used eating to get him to sleep. Without it, he would get close, but when the moment to fall asleep came, he would burst out crying. After a few days of watching this, I knew this program is what we needed to do. It took one day for the program to work. He cried for a total of 15 minutes. Since then, we have no more tears and he actually gets a little happy when we leave him on his own. I really feel like he learned in the least traumatic way possible. The step by step nature of the program made it easy for both my husband and I to follow and be consistent. Our family, our health and our marriage are all thriving now that we're all finally getting some sleep.
I highly recommend the book for anyone, as I think that there is something that can be taken from it, regardless of your parenting style.
- a must buy!
This book is exactly what I needed. Although I knew a lot of the information that it provided, I definately needed all the support and encouragement it offered! My son now sleeps 12 1/2 hours at night and takes 2-3 hour naps during the day. He can even put himself to sleep which is such a blessing when I have the grandparents or our childcare provider watching him. He is a year old and I'm sad that I waited this long to get this book and try it out. ...more info
- Sleep at last!
This book really works! We followed the instructions exactly and we had our son sleeping 11 hours a night within 5 days! Before that he was fussy to put down, woke 4 and 5 times in the night and had my husband and I both exhausted. It was tough to have him cry but the principals are sound, the reassurance helped him master the skill of sleeping and this phase did not last long. Getting the room ready was an important step too as we had too many distractions. At 1st we stuck very closely to our established routine but now he is a champion sleeper and still settles even if we are out late or throw his schedule. What a blessing this book was :)...more info
- Great middle ground method
I felt this was the only book to recognize parent's fear of crying, as well as having a healthy time expectation of not training before 4-5 months, when babies should still be getting nighttime feeds. It also offered lots of good ideas on how to get ready to train, to minimize crying, and reasonable advice. Such as not going cold turkey with crying it out or dropping all of their sleep-associations such as swaddling and pacifiers, all at once. This allowed us to gradually get our daughter used to falling asleep without her pacifier, THEN we worked on getting her out of her swaddle (which she was SO ready for and happier out of---but she was just used to it).
Some hardcore attachment parenting types may get indignant at the thought of their child crying, but my daughter now cries LESS, now that she knows how to soothe herself. I hear her cooing as she gets put down to sleep and she wakes up LAUGHING. (no lie) she is SUCH a happier baby now! And she never had to cry for more than 7 minutes, from the very start of her training. now she rarely cries for 1-2 minutes, if she wakes in the night, and then zonks right back out and the whole family is happier! You do your child no favors by denying them the skills to make themselves happy. ...more info
- Sleep in 3 nights!!
This is a great book. At 11 month my son was waking every 2-3 hours and would not sleep in his crib. I would have to nurse him to get him back to sleep. It only took three nights of followihng this book and he was falling asleep in his crib with maybe 1 minute of crying. He also started sleeping through the night. The best part of the book was the crying 911 chapter that I would read to help me get through his crying. It was much easier than expected. Thank you!! ...more info
- doesn't work to get your baby to sleep but has useful info (see below)
so I did exactly what it said to get my baby to sleep at night and after 3 excrutiating (sp?) nights of no sleep (for me and her) I gave up. I was in hell at that point from no sleep.
Instead try this: If you're nursing at night & sleeping with your baby, have your husband take over at nights. Then your baby will not be alone & he can rub her back & all and you can sleep in another room knowing that your baby is not being ignored. After a few nights, she will realize that there's no point to wake up & will sleep through the night. I did this when my daughter was 16 months old because I was tired of night nursing. I am much happier now & she's sleeping through the night! (no thanks to this book.
However this book has some useful sleeping info (see below):
SLEEPING & NAPS BY AGE:
0-4 months - they sleep on & off
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 14-16 hours of sleep
NAPS: 3-4 naps totalling 3-4 hours of sleep
NIGHT: 11-12 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 3 naps with 2-2.5 hours of awake time between naps
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 13-15.25 hours of sleep
NAPS: 2-3 naps totalling 2-3.25 hours
NIGHT: 11-12 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 3 naps with 2-3 hours of awake time between naps
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 13-15 hours of sleep
NAPS: 2 naps totalling 2-3 hours
NIGHT: 11-12 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 2 naps with 2.5-3.5 hours of awake time between naps
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 12.5-15 hours of sleep
NAPS: 1-2 naps totalling 1.5-3 hours
NIGHT: 11-12 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 2 naps with 3-4 hours of awake time between naps
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 12.5-14 hours of sleep
NAPS: 1 nap that is 1.5-3 hours long
NIGHT: 11 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 1 nap with 5-6 hours of awake time till they nap
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 12.5-14 hours of sleep
NAPS: 1 nap that is 1.5-3 hours long
NIGHT: 11 hours of sleep at night
NAPS: 1 nap with 6-7 hours of awake time till they nap
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 11-14 hours of sleep
NAPS: maybe no nap, but if they take one it'd be up to 2 hours
NIGHT: 11 hours of sleep at night. if they drop the nap they'll sleep longer at night
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 11-12 hours of sleep
NAPS: maybe no nap, but if they take one it'd be up to 2 hours
NIGHT: 11 hours of sleep at night. if they drop the nap they'll sleep longer at night
NAPS: If still napping, 7-8 hours between waking & nap
TOTAL: In 24 hours they need 11-12 hours of sleep
NAPS: no nap
NIGHT: 11-12 hours of sleep at night
- I love a sleeping baby!
I used the Sleep Easy Method for my 6 month old. It took about 3-4 nights to work and now, I put my daughter to bed with no fuss. I will admit, this was the hardest thing I have had to do, but the rewards are well worth it. This is a great book for any parent wanting to help his/her child sleep....more info
- Immediately helped!
Of all the books we've looked at so far, this has been the most helpful. Specific, simple, and included worksheets. We saw results within a week, and it anticipates all the different barriers one might encounter. I would definitely recommend this one....more info
- Easy to follow and effective program
My husband and I wrestled with the decision of whether or not to sleep train our baby. We fought it for months, but eventually had to do it because she was not getting the sleep that she needed. She was waking multiple times during the night and would take 1-2 hours to get back to sleep each time. This book was an amazing resource. It was logical and explained the process thoroughly and completely. Within three nights, she was sleeping through the night. During the day, she is happier and healthier. I highly recommend this book. ...more info
- Works like magic!
My 7 month old daughter had gotten into a bad habit of waking up every three hours to "nurse", which really meant pacifying on me. She won't take a pacifier, wouldn't simply be rocked to sleep and couldn't be patted to sleep during her night wakings. This book seemed like it had the most doable plan, so I plunged in and followed the instructions carefully. In 6 nights she was sleeping through the night, and if she did awaken, she would only fuss for less than a minute before soothing herself back to sleep. We also had to endure only one long crying spell (just over an hour) in the middle of our sleep training week. I haven't gone into her room in the middle of the night for two weeks now, and we are all so incredibly well-rested and happy. Sleep training can be a very daunting thought, but I promise, it's so worth it....more info
- Good product and promptly mailed
This is a good book with good insight. It is a cry it out method. Unfortunately I haven't done the steps yet because my baby has been going through some transitions and growth spurts. Basically, it's a system that gets baby to sleep through the night gradually weaning off his nighttime feedings and feeding him more during the day. I think it's a good book with a good theory as long as you DO IT!!! I guess that's the only way for any baby, just let them cry and always have a good routine for them. I was kinda hoping for something that wouldn't involve so much crying. Oh well!...more info
- First full night's sleep in 7 months
After reading this book and following the plan religiously, our entire family had it's first full night of sleep in 7 months. Thanks you so much....more info
- Amazing can't describe it.....
Our son was 16-months old and still waking anywhere from 3-5 times a night. My wife and I were at the end of our rope. We thought we had tried everything short of just leaving him in his room alone to cry by himself, which we refused to do. Our midwife suggested that we call another of her mothers about the Sleepeasy Solution. This mother-of-two explained how the Sleepeasy program worked and how wonderful it was. She reassured us that this wasn't the "cry-it-out alone method" that we feared. We gave it a try....
Our son, Benjamin, now sleeps 11 hours a night with no wake-ups. It took 4 nights to get him to go to sleep when we put him down. Naps took a little longer (2 weeks or more) but now he naps everyday without problems as well. It has been well over a month now and he has not had one wake-up during the night that has required us to go to him.
We are so thankful for help in changing our entire family's life for the better. We had forgotten how wonderful sleep could be until now!!!
- The only sleep book you need
This book is fantastic (and I've read ALL of them out there). The suggestions are great and work like a charm. We are finally getting some sleep!...more info
- Easy read, very practical!!!
I just bought this book after also reading Ferber's book and doing some "ferber light" with our 3.5 month old son with the permission of our pediatrician. Both advocate a progressive checking approach, which we have done the last 4 nights with our son. We have had amazing results with this method. For the first 3 months of his life, we have been swaddling and bouncing with our son on an exercise ball to get him to sleep. He has also been sleeping in his car seat as he felt more secure. Anytime he woke at night, same process. For naps, same thing. It was exhausting and took forever.
We wanted to dabble with helping him go to sleep on his own, in his crib. So we tried this method and it is like a miracle has been worked in our home. When first being put to bed, he has gone to sleep each night and for most naps, no crying. We couldn't believe it (I think he was just ready). Subsequent wakings have been harder, but the longest total crying time has been 45 minutes on night one (and we checked him every 5 minutes during that time). Only 20 minutes on Night 2. Night 3 he actually slept through the night and Night 4 one awakening to eat.
Now, even during the day, we can put him down drowsy and he goes to sleep on his own. Even at Grandpa's house. It is nothing short of a life-changer to our entire household.
The reason I specifically like this book is that it is well-written, concise, practical, and extremely supportive. It is hard to hear your baby cry and remember that it is only for a short time and to help them learn. The authors have a very supportive tone. Further, the book is not a dictionary on sleep theory which some of the other books out there are. There is a time and place for exhaustive sleep theory, and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and the Ferber book both have that. HSHHC rambles on forever incoherently and offers little in the way of practical methods (I do not agree with his extinction method--i.e. shut the door and let them cry). Sometimes you just want simple answers, who cares about REM cycles and circadian rhythms when you slept 4 hours last night?
This book also had a simple system to deal with night feedings, which was applicable to us as our son was still under 4 months and it's not appropriate to give up a night feed just yet if it is needed. But you don't want the feed to send an inconsistent training message, and this book had a solution to that.
All in all I think this is best "cry it out" book out there and believe me, I have read them ALL obsessively. Get this book, you won't be sorry and your child will sleep better....more info
- Extremely helpful book
While this may not be the method for every family, this definitely worked for us!! Creating a bedtime routine and a firm(ish) time to begin it worked wonders for us - our son finally slept consistently through the night at 10 months old, and I finally got the full night's sleep I so desperately needed! Yes, the first night was bad, as our son cried for almost an hour before he fell asleep. But the book provides tips and encouragement for getting through that first night, and after two days, we had smooth sailing. And for all those who are concerned about letting their child cry for an hour straight, I've found that it did not hurt our child one bit, and the end result (a full night's sleep) has greatly improved my son's health and mine. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone trying to help their child learn to fall asleep on their own and sleep through the night....more info
- Baby Sleep Magic!
My husband and I decided before our son's birth that we would follow the Attachment Parenting Model, including co-sleeping. We were prepared to co-sleep for a couple of years. And it was working very well for us. But things change and plans must change with them. We are expecting our 2nd baby in October, only 13 months after the first! Which means we needed our son to sleep on his own for more than a couple of hours at a time otherwise I had no idea how I would care for two babies!
We started trying various methods when our son was 6 months, but knew we did not want to do a full-out Ferber-style method. We tried the No-Cry Solution, Healthy Sleep Habits, Baby Whisperer and so on. However, nothing was working. In fact, all our efforts seemed to be making it worse and our son would no longer sleep unless being held by one of us! All naps AND all night long! As soon as we put him down, he would wake up screaming.
Then I heard about the Sleepeasy Solution. Although completely exhausted, I managed to read the entire book in one evening. It made sense and seemed quite straight-forward. My husband and I decided we would follow it exactly and hope for the best. The next evening was a Friday so we started the process, a little fearful of the screaming that would happen. But the screaming didn't happen. Our son did a bit of protest crying the first night. But it was a confused, frustrated cry. He never cried from terror or real upset. And he was asleep within 40 minutes of us laying him down. He'd never fallen asleep on his own! Ever!
The second day the naps went pretty well. And the second night he fussed for one minute, then laid down and hummed himself to sleep. He was sound asleep within 8 minutes! We could not believe it! And in the following days it improved from there! He is now a champion sleeper and goes into his crib without complaint!
I believe the key is the extended ritual that you follow the same way, at about the same time, every day. The Sleepeasy Solution authors really lay it out for you and help you create your own ritual that works for your family. Now when we do the ritual, our 9 month old son starts to get sleepy. By the end, he cuddles with us and then reaches his arms out to the crib!
I would recommend this book to anyone struggling with normal sleep issues (as long as your doctor has determined there is no medical reason for the sleep problems!) With the new baby we will start by co-sleeping for 4-6 months for ease of night-time feedings and bonding. Then follow the process again!...more info
- Hello Birth to 5 years does not equal 4months - 5 years!
Ok - I haven't read the whole book yet, but skipping to Chapter 2 it says that you can start this method as soon as your child is 4months old!!! Hello - why does the title have in it from 'birth to 5 years'. Right now I am completely sleep deprived with a one month old, looking for solutions, and relize that I was dupped into buying this book....more info
- Best sleep book ever!
This book was a godsend. It helped me through by preparing me mentally to help my baby learn to sleep. Then it took me through the mechanical steps of what to do, what he may need and what I may need. Finally, for those times when he just kept crying, I had something to turn to for encouragement. Before you know it, he started sleeping through the night and is now a great sleeper!!...more info
- This book changed our lives!
At about nine months of age my daughter was still waking up crying 2-3 times during the night. My husband would go upstairs and "binky" her, and she would fall back to sleep. Not the worst of scenarios, but our sleep (as well as hers) was disrupted. After reading this book we learned a few things that we weren't doing, such as having a bedtime routine (in the room where she would be sleeping) and putting our daughter in her crib awake. It took us a couple of nights of a tiny bit of crying, but she hasn't needed to be "binky'd" since! She is able to fall asleep on her own, soothe herself back to sleep during the night, and has been sleeping 11-12 hours straight ever since. She will be two next month! I also recommend "The Happiest Baby on the Block" for babies 0-3 months. ...more info
- The only book for babies AND parents
A dear friend gave me this book when I had a newborn and it was the best baby gift I received. I like and believe in it so much that I now give it to every new mother I know.
My experience with the book:
I had a baby that took very short naps and woke every 3 hours, sometimes more often at night, to nurse. I had no time to do anything or get enough rest for myself. We waited until he met the suggested age & weight requirements for weaning and I followed the recommendations. On the night after his last night weanings, I held my breath, waiting for him to wake and cry at his regular intervals, but he slept 12 hours solid and I could hardly believe it. He is now 9 mos. old and has been sleeping 12 hours every night since he was 5 mos. old. He is so happy and rested, and I have the energy to be an attentive and patient parent.
Why I like this book:
The authors take care to address the parent's anxiety and fears about teaching a baby to learn how to sleep. They did not make me feel like a monster for wanting my baby to sleep, nor a doormat for having gone to extraordinary lengths to help him sleep (driving up and down the highway, anyone?). I just didn't know where to even begin with sleep training. This is a short read, and organized for different age groups, so I only had to read the sections that pertained to me.
Why I give it to other people:
This book gave me a baby with a beautiful temperament. He knows when it's bedtime, he knows when it's naptime. His waking hours are wonderful because his sleeping hours are of great quality and appropriate quantity. It gave me my evenings back so that I can devote time to myself and my husband. It gave me a full night's sleep so I can stay healthy for my family. I can't think of a better gift to give sleep-deprived parents than the tools to have these things too.
What I think about some of the posted criticisms:
There are many different parenting philosophies and of course, every parent should educate herself and decide what works best for her family. An attachment parenting or co-sleeping advocate may think other books speak more to her, but it makes the advice in this book no less valid for other families seeking a different perspective. As with everything, I filter advice and do what I believe is right for me and my family. My baby might have learned how to sleep through the night in several months' or years' time, but I would not have been the parent I wanted to be with that level of sleep deprivation. Good sleep is critical for good physical and mental health, both for babies and parents!
- child therapist
We used this program in conjunction with healthy sleep habits, happy child and found success. This program lays the ground work and probably works for a lot of people, alone. However, I liked the idea of rocking or soothing my baby to sleep - why wake him up? This program gave me permission to let him cry a little when he woke up, but was a wee bit too simplistic for our child. I do recommend it in conjunction with above named. My now one year old is sleeping through the night- huge success, but we have not found success with the day naps from this program. Worth a try! Psychotherapist and mother of two sleep resistant boys....more info
- Supportive and encouraging!
Our 10-month old son has never slept through the night. With another child on the way, it occurred to us that we better start getting some sleep soon! I found this book on Amazon and figured I would give it a try. It has been such a blessing to our family! Even though we are still working through naptimes, our child slept through the entire night on day 1, with minimal crying. Unlike the other methods, this one encourages support for your child throughout their crying- which, by the way, is inevitable if you want your child to learn how to sleep successfully on their own. I am not sure why there are any bad reviews about this book. First of all, you don't abandon your child. You are there for them and check in with them all the time. Also, it is imperative that children learn how to put themselves to sleep- this method teaches them that they can self-soothe, something that must be learned. While it is absolutely heartbreaking to hear your child cry, and yes- every bone in your body wants to pick them up- it is for their own good to let them have some space to figure out they can go to sleep, with your support. I am not a fan of "crying it out" and consider myself and my husband to be outstanding, loving and supportive parents. This worked for us and we had tried many other things, not including just letting our child scream to exhaustion. This book does not advocate that at all. It provides the necessary tools you need to help your child sleep and get well-rested, with the least amount of crying, which helps the whole family. It also includes sections on how to wean night feedings. I highly recommend this book. ...more info
- This book saved our family!
I bought this book out of desperation when my 4 month old was still getting up every two hours. The only way he would go back to sleep was drinking 2-3 oz of formula. I reached the breaking point one night when he was up every 1.5 hours and I realized he had consumed almost 50 oz of formula in one day! Way too much. He was crabby, irritable and just seemed exhausted during the days, too.
We implemented the book's weaning program (which is brillant) since my son was in the weight requirements for this. It took 6 nights and he shed not ONE TEAR. This is because the weaning program is gentle and the baby does not even know what's happening.
The first night of real sleep learning was the 7th night because he was weaned and would therefore not get a bottle when he woke up. My son had no trouble putting himself to sleep for naps and bed- it was the night wakings we had trouble with so we were nervous.
I won't even sugarcoat it- it was a very, very rough night. My son cried for one hour straight when he woke the first time. We continued with the check-ins as the book instructs. I wanted to give up so badly. It was very difficult. I read the chapter "help for panicked parents!" many times during the first two nights. It was priceless- like someone is sitting there, holding your hand and encouraging you. The compassion and support in this book is unmatched by any other(and I've read every sleep book out there).
So after 1 hour he fell asleep. He woke on and off for the next 5 hours. It was the worst night of my parenting life but I knew that he needed to learn to sleep on his own- that we were harming him by continuing to allow him to rely on the bottle to fall back asleep.
The second night he woke at 12am and cried for only 20 minutes. He woke again around 3 and cried for 5 minutes.
The third night he woke once and cried for 3 minutes.
The fourth night-- nothing! NO TEARS. NO WAKE-UPS.
And he has slept 11-12 hours every night since then (that was a month ago). He is a different child. So outgoing. Happy. Cheerful. Not traumatized at all by that one night of crying.
This program works. It's amazing. I am giddy every night when I put him to sleep because I know I have 12 hours to myself. My marriage is better and I am a better parent to my older toddler (who slept through the night with no problems at 10 weeks).
Listening to your baby cry is torture. But if you can do it just one night (that will be the worst of it) you will allow your child to learn to soothe himself for every night after that.
I was in your shoes once- desperate for answers. I found everything my family needed and more in this book....more info
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