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The classic on sex in Christian marriage, now updated and expanded. The most medically accurate description of sexual function in the male and female available today. This material is presented in wholesome terms that would be of help to any married or soon-to-be married couple.
This book was a wedding gift and very obviously one of our better gifts - a must for any Christian marriage or anyone who doesn't really know everything they needed to know....more info
- Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat
This book was very informative about sexual relationships within Christian marriages. It helped me understand some things about men that I had never known. It is a great tool to use for the teenage sex talk and why it is important to wait for marriage both physically and psychologically. In addition, the book discusses ways to make sure that both partners within the marriage enjoy fulfilling sex in the delicate manner so as not to be offensive. It encourages Christians that the act of making love to your spouse is one that God came up with and that it is meant to be a thrilling experience to both husband and wife. Finally, the book talks about things that may prevent a couple from having a healthy fulfilling sexual marriage and how to solve the problem(s) that the they are having through practice techniques, medicine, or counseling with a pastor. ...more info
- Pretty good book
I got this book as part of premarriage counseling, and overall it was a good book. Good information for people of various sex knowledge levels. However, the book was comical at points and seemed a bit old fashioned/impractical. For example, a wife should have dinner on the table and look her best when her husband comes home from work. It also said that couples should not own a TV for the first year of their marriage. Already broke that rule....more info
- For more information
"Intended for Pleasure" is a pretty good resource for engaged Christian couples, but it is a little technical/mechanical and dry. I'd recommend "Sheet Music" by Kevin Leman first and then try this one if you want more study....more info
- Very Helpful
My fianc¨¦ and I are reading this book together before we get married. It has been very helpful to both of us, we wanted a Christian based book on God's design for sex in marriage. We also wanted input on what to expect the wedding night to be like since we're virgins, it has a wonderful chapter that talks directly to engaged/newly weds about that first night. We would highly recommend this book to other couples who want a biblical view of sex in marriage. ...more info
- Extremely Informative!!!
Ladies, (especially Christian ladies) this book is the one you've been looking for. It's very professionally done (meaning it's not crude or offensive) and it's very informative!!!! It also has an excellent section for women trying to get pregant with info O B Gyn offices and Fertility clinics won't tell you!!! Tons of info from Doctor's!!! Check it out! Brenda R...more info
- Not so hot.
I was given this book by my therapist to read. I found that a few points were interesting and informative, but overall, the book was a snooze. It seems to be made for the older crowd, not so much the young twenty-something-to-be-newlywed. Chapter 10 is ESPECIALLY a crock, titled, "The 'Perfect' Wife." That was what really turned me off to the book and made me think this was totally not worth my time. There are much better books on this subject out there....more info
- Good Preparation
Our Pastor had us purchase this book about midway through our marriage counseling, in preparation for the wedding night.
It supplied much good information that saved us some problems and allowed us to be better prepared for details as they came up.
Dr. Wheat can be a bit dry at times but he is complete in his presentation. There is much help in this book for all kinds of things. And better yet from someone with a Christian perspective....more info
- Detailed and helpful but somtimes cold.
I purchased this book before my honeymoon in hopes of ithelping my wife and I get the maximun enjoyment out of sex in ourmarrige. The first few chapters are rather dry and cold speaking mostly of anatomy and the like. After that there are some excellent tips to making sex very enjoyable and not discouraging, especially if its your first time. These chapters helped me tremendously in finding out what God intended for sex and pleasing my wife. All the tips he gives in these chapters are very long and tedious. If you think you have these problems prepare yourself for some fun but hard work. Lots of practice sessions with total vulnerability with your partner. And probably with some disappointments. It can be tedious reading but stick with it, it is helpful. Some of the commentary is very clinical and dry, but helpful when you apply it. I really saw the heart of the writers, which is to help and instruct people to have the most fulfilling sex life as possible. END...more info
- Well Written, and Very Informative!
This is the best book I have ever read in regards to marital love and sex. Ed and Gay Wheat have taken and educated, "no-hype", direct approach to married sexual fulfilment. This is not a book for those seeking anything other then satisfied, commited sexual fulfillment. I encourage every couple to purchase this book before marriage and this would certainly be a great shower gift before the wedding. Parent's this is a wonderful book to help explain all the things you were uncomfortable telling your children all along....more info
- Sex isn't for the weak...
In a world where the majority of couples are divorced after only 5 years of marriage, maybe it's time to go against the grain of the male-female territory war and try sex the way it was intended. This book gives you every reason to explore your sexuality with the one person you care about most. Those of you who can't open your minds to new ways of thought about understanding your mate; beware, this book encourages you to explore what MAKING love is all about....more info
- Great book on sex for the Christian!
I recently bought this book for my fiance and I to read before we get married. It has been very helpful in explaining the sexual relation for the Christian. The book covers sex in a very clear and understandable way without being lewd or crass. Some forms of sexual expression between a husband and wife are not addressed very much. Over all it is a very good book. ...more info
- Wonderful and educational
This book is wonderful! I bought it just prior to my wedding. It is a bit like going back to middle school sex-ed, but it proved invaluable for the honeymoon. The authors deal expertly, honestly, and sensitively about the subject....more info
- Recommend to couples going to be married
This book was for my daughter, 26, and her fiancee, 28, who are going to be married this Sept. It was recommended by the pastor who taught their 9-week premarital class at their church, Mars Hill, in Seattle. I have heard this was a good book before this time anyway. It is concise, well-written, easy to read, and I highly recommend it to young (and old) couples. My daughter is pretty innocent and this book makes it clear but not unappealing. Has parts on birth control as well. If you want a book that both presents sex well and from the Christian perspective (within marriage), this is the book for you. I also liked it that it did not have pictures, which I think make a book a little less appealing and prurient. ...more info
- All couples should read this book...
this book is good for couples married for 20 years or just starting the journy....more info
- Must for Newly Weds!!!!
If you are getting married BUY THIS BOOK!!!! It will save you from so many issues that can hurt your marriage. If possible have both of you read in in the month or so before the wedding. This book helped us have an Awesome honeymoon with realistic expectations for people who saved themselves for marriage. It also helped us talk through important things we would not have thought about prior to the wedding. So I consider this book essencial!!! Even if you are not newly weds the information in this book can help renew the sex life in your marriage. Basically...Get this book!!!...more info
- sex in marriage
An excellent book from a Christian perspective on the "how to's" of sex. Specific enough to be extremely helpful without being innapropriate. Excellent read for a couple about to get married who have kept themselves pure till marriage. Also good for couples who have been married but are unfulfilled in their sex lives and looking for help....more info
- Too clinical, yet not enough information
This was the first book I read for help on marital intimacy. It was a wedding gift from a friend that meant well. I read all of it, and found only the most basic info of it helpful in any meaningful way. My husband read the first few chapters, and was so turned OFF by what it said that he stopped there, and I can't blame him. Clinical, humorless, and not at all relatable, not to mention all the issues, techniques, etc that was not even addressed by the authors. I gave my copy away.
I've since read many, many other books, and can highly recommend "Sheet Music" (for both genders) by Kevin Leman, "The Sexually Confident Wife" by Shannon Ethridge for women, and "Sex, Romance, and the Glory Of God" for men by C.J. Mahaney. ...more info
- Okay, But Lacking In Many Areas
I commend this book, because unlike many other sex manuals, the authors bring God into the equation. However, there appeared to be a lack of awareness that women are just as sexual as men are. The idea that women should participate in sex just because her husband is in the mood even if she isn't, is an idea that should have died a long time ago. While I agreed that sex toys create responses artificially, I did not agree with the author's view that they should be banned from the bedroom. They talked against oral sex, which is another way for a woman to reach orgasm other than the manual stimulation the authors kept going on about. In fact, it didn't seem much encouragement was given to couples' experimenting with what works for them. The techniques presented in the book are only a few of what is available to married couples. I would recommend this book with hesitation to couples who are virgins, and steer them towards other manuals for further details. I wouldn't necessarily recommend this to any couple who already has the experience. ...more info
- Great book, if you're a mysogynist.
I find myself applauding the Wheats' heartfelt attempt at creating a book that breaches the subject of sex and sexuality within the conservative, mainline, Christian world. However, their work falls too far short of being informative, balanced, contemporary, and open to deserve any real recognition.
First, their understanding of sexuality is about 25 years past date. They need to update their research. They have nothing in the book about oral sex, mutual masturbation, sex/orgasmic response differences among women, and premature ejaculation.
Second, they objectify women to the point of sheer domination. The chapter entitled, "The Perfect Wife" elaborates on why women ought to just "lay back and enjoy it." Frankly, I found it sick and disgusting. The authors claim to be a coequal team, but I don't see it in the writing, I don't see it in the information, and I definitely don't see it in their description of sex as a mutually beneficial act. Their response, as a said above, is basically one that encourages men to dominate their wife by demanding sex whenever they please. For example, at one point in the "Perfect Wife" chapter they say:
"If you think your husband seems to require a lot more sex than you do, ponder this illustration: If you were in the desert and you were thirsty, you'd think about a glass of water, wouldn't you? But if you're standing by the refrigerator, and there's an opportunity to push the button and get it any time you want to, the need for a drink is not nearly so urgent. Maybe the reason your husband seems never to think of anything besides sex is that he's "in the desert" and "thirsty"
"Sometimes you will be very tired and feeling as sexy as an old sock, but your husband will approach you with desire. Secular therapists say a wife should be able to respond, "Sorry, but I'm just not up to it tonight." My own opinion as a Christian wife is that we can depend on the Lord to give us the strength and ability to be as warm and responsive as our husband desires, no matter how tired we are...
..."Most important, a wise wife will not argue. She will keep her husband peaceful and satisfied and happy by gracefully conceding to his wishes, or deferring to his opinions...A husband usually welcomes the thoughtful opinions of his wife..."(157-159, Third Ed.)
This excerpt pretty much sums up why I HATE this book. It was a gift from a friend before my wife and I got married, and I'm surprised that I haven't burned it in effigy. Women are NOT objects who deserve their own voice, and this book promotes a Christianity that oppresses that voice. So, my conscious would not be clear if I did not give a resoundingly negative review for this book on that merit alone.
If you want my advice, go read "The Joy of Sex." It has all the medical and psychological facts, and presents an understanding of sexuality that is mutual, equal, and loving....more info
- 80 complete on a 1-100 scale
After listening to Ed Wheat's tapes for newlyweds and then reading this book with my new wife we have found many useful things to apply to our marriage and sex life. We have however found several severe errors in his teachings.
Dr. Wheat takes a very mechanical approach to sexual pleasure in marriage especially for the woman. Even as another man I can see it is too obvious that his very logical and systematic approach to sex is flawed. It is not as simple as if you do step 1, 2, and 3 then orgasm will occur. The female body AND mind are much more complex than this! He also goes into such detail in areas which do not apply (PAP smear?) to the general reader, and fails to mention that there are some very common physical problems many women experience which prevents sexual intercourse on the wedding night - often requiring minor surgery.
We found Dr. Wheat's book VERY useful, however it did fall short of giving couples a complete and realistic picture of sex in the Christian marriage. It is definitely worth the money and a book to review many times over the years; however, it should be read with a very open mind and not taken as being the only way for things to be....more info
- good overview of sex relationship with Christian foundation
Book was great - slightly repetative but really gives you a good spiritual and medical explanaition of sex an marriage with the tools to improve both your sex and emotional relatioship with your spouse....more info
- Very good but not perfect
... here's my review:
Intended for Pleasure gives a lot of good, basic, explicit advice on both a marital sexual relationship, and the technique of lovemaking itself. It avoids couching the facts in poetic language which is one of its strengths. It also does a good job of addressing myths and wrongheaded attitudes which need to be dispelled. I know that it motivated me to do some self examination of my character. I realized that I had a lot of unhelpful pride that I needed to let go before my wedding night.
The main weakness of the book is that the author sometimes fails to fully explain some of the actions he refers to. It's kind of like a Julia Child cookbook where she refers to a complex procedure without ever explaining what it is. In a book like this it's a good idea to be completely descriptive at all times. Once something has been explained, then you can refer to it by a general reference.
The illustrations are only marginally helpful. I'm not advocating the inclusion of Hustler type photographs, but something more detailed than line drawings would be more educational.
The author also sometimes gets badly sidetracked. For example, he includes the procedure for doing a pap smear in the basic anatomy section. What on Earth would a reader of this book want with that information? I suspect he let his fascination with medicine interefere with his purpose in writing this book.
All of that being said, however, this is overall a very good book on the subject. I would recommend it to any Christian couple who is going to be married within a month or so....more info
- I wouldn't if I were you...
Gosh, so this has survived to go into further editions, has it?
I hope they've dropped the authors' pro-male dominance & female submissiveness rants (this translates as "every time he wants sex, you let him have it, and don't worry your pretty little head about it because it's what the baby Jesus wants you to do") which were actively disowned by the UK publishers.
But I bet they haven't....more info
- Best Christian sex manual out there!
The Wheat's really know what they are talking about...and it was fun to read with my new husband. I would recommend this book to everyone, not just Christians, who are about to make the jump to wedded bliss. Probably better to read a month before the wedding...otherwise that first night can be like fumbling around in the dark. Highly recommended....more info
- excellent book!!!!
I bought this book and "Intimate Issues" at the reccomendation of a female friend who said that she wished someone had told her about them before she got married.
When I recieved the books I immediately dove into this one, it's an easy read, seperated into chapters so that you can read what intrests you. Technique, STD's, dysfunction, God's purpose for sex, etc. etc. it's not like the stereotypical Christian sex book... Ed Wheat gives the reader a good idea of how exciting and fulfilling sex can be in marriage. There's also a chapter on the honeymoon night and having sex for the fisrt time.
This book is esspecially helpful for men who might feel they can't sexually satisfy their wife, there is an extensive section on a "cure" method for pre-ejaculation and also a section on teaching him the intricacies of a woman's body and how to last longer so that he can please her. Ed feels very strongly that it is a man's job to please his wife... I was happy when my finace borrowed this book from me and claimed he had read the whole thing!...more info
- Christians Have Sex Too - And I Love Sex!!!
Wow!!!! A Great book on giving your wife the climax of a life time (in a pure way, of course). After reading this book, we let it loose, never feel guilty about it, and we have grown a lot. And boy, is she a sexual dynamite : o Read this book and have fun, in or out of bed, like the hall way, the car, the computer desk, uh I, mnb m got to go. Thinking about this book makes me want my wife....more info
- Sooooo Helpful!
Intended for Pleasure explains it all without offense or timidity. My husband and I benefitted greatly (and still do).More interestingly, we gained so much understanding and pleasure in our sex life after reading that we started to loan our 2 copies out. The interesting thing is that we never get them back! I am online today to refurbish our stock. Very worthwhile....more info
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