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The most important person in a young girl's life? Her father. That's right-and teen health expert Dr. Meg Meeker has the data and clinical experience to prove it. After more than twenty years of counseling girls, she knows that fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for their daughters' lives. Now Dr. Meeker, author of the critically acclaimed Epidemic: How Teen Sex Is Killing Our Kids, shows you how to strengthen -- or rebuild -- your bond with your daughter, and how to use it to shape her life, and yours, for the better. Directly challenging the feminist attack on traditional masculinity, Dr. Meeker demonstrates that the most important factor for girls growing up into confident, well-adjusted women is a strong father with conservative values. To have one, she shows, is the best protection against eating disorders, failure in school, STDs, unwed pregnancy, and drug or alcohol abuse -- and the best predictor of academic achievement, successful marriage, and a satisfying emotional life. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters reveals:--The essential characteristics and virtues of strong fathers -- and how to develop them - How daughters take cues from their fathers on everything from drug use, drinking, smoking, and having sex, to self-esteem, moodiness, and seeking attention from boys - Why girls want you to place restrictions on them (even though they'll complain when you do) - How to become a hero to your daughter -- and why she needs that more than anything - The one mistake fathers make that is the primary cause of girls "hooking up" - Why girls depend on the guidance of fathers through, and even beyond, their college years - cipe for disaster: the notion that girls "need to make their own decisions and mistakes" - Why girls need God -- and how your faith, or lack thereof, will influence her - How to communicate with your daughter -- and how not to - True stories of "prodigal daughters" -- and how their fathers helped bring them back. Dads, you are far more powerful than you think you are. Your daughters need the support that only fathers can provide -- and if you are willing to follow Dr. Meeker's advice on how to guide your daughter, to stand between her and a toxic culture, your rewards will be unmatched
- Some great information!
'Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters' by Dr. Meeker is a great book offering some fantastic information to fathers who are raising a daughter. The book is broken down into her '10 secrets'. As with all 'help books', please keep in mind that all the information is one point of view, and this should be part of a first step in the investigation.
That being said, it was refreshing to read this book and realize that Dr. Meeker is a woman and daughter. I found a number of her points very helpfully and made me think about how I react and deal with certain situations. However, woman may see some fo Dr. Meeker's points to be antiquated, and copunter to some of today's more forward thinking women.
I feel that this book raises issues that all fathers should look at, reflect upon, and choose to (or not) react. The fact that you are, at a minimum, thinking about issues that may not appear for a few years is a great first step. ...more info
- Now I know all the things that I should have known before!
Dr. Meeker lays out in plain English just what it means to be a REAL MAN when it comes to also being the father of a daughter. I was fortunate enough to have been raised by a better-than-decent teacher in my own dad, a father who taught his four boys how to love, cherish and respect the significant females in our lives (mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, etc.), but I still found new insights into how important a father is--and should be--in the life of his little girl(s).
Despite what "new psychology" tells us, boys and girls, men and women are, indeed different--in so many ways, and it's high time we, as a society instruct this new generation in that ol'-fashioned, but time-tested, truth. Little girls (and older girls and daughters) have different needs, wants, aspirations and maturity rates that demand different approaches to child-rearing than we dads might otherwise deem appropriate for boys or young men, sons, nephews and the like.
I especially found helpful the anectdotes strewn throughout the book, and to be reminded how lasting and impressive a father's words, in particular, are to his little girl(s) development about the kind of person she's even then being shaped to be, hit home with me probably more so than any other point raised in "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters."
I thorougly enjoyed the book and have already passed it along to another father--one who, like me, is fortunate enough to have the grand experience of being a "dad-in-training" to a beautiful and wonderous adopted daughter.
EXCELLENT READ!...more info
- Strong Book
I am normally not a person who likes self-help books but a friend of mine recommended it. I have to say I was pleasantly surprised. It was an outstanding book which made a lot of sense. The author does a wonderful job with the flow of the book making it a fast read. Important themes are repeated. It was very helpful to me as a father of a 3 yr old. It also has good advice that can be useful to both parents (my wife is now reading the book). I highly recommend it....more info
- Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
It was nice to be validated as a father, especially coming from a professional (not lash back driven) intelligent woman as Dr. Meeker. Great practical stories that connects a mans heart to his daughter.
The short list.
-Tools that are usful.
-Stories that relate.
-Validation as a man/father/husband.
-To the point
-No psyco garbage but yet smart...more info
- A strong dose of perspective.
Dr. Meeker's book provides fathers with an unflinching glimpse into the world that girls are growing up in today. She provides bleak statistics about the dangers of promiscuity, drugs, unrealistic body image and the lack of a moral compass provided by society. She follows this up with evidence of how fathers who stick to their guns can help their daughters not only survive, but thrive in the face of these various snares. She continually reminds fathers to look at the world not through their own eyes, but through the eyes of their daughters and provides various scenarios for fathers to consider.
My daughter is five and I am glad that I read this book now. I plan to re-read it again and again as she grows older. I highly recommend it....more info
- Every father should read this
Here are 10 secrets every father should know. These secrets are based on current evidence (in the scientific literature), as well as Dr. Meeker's personal experience as a pediatrician. While much of it seems like common sense, I was sure glad to get confirmation of what I thought. I read it while my daughter was an infant, and I'm sure that I will read it several more times again as she gets older. The only way you'll know these secrets and of their importance is to read this book (now and again and again)....more info
- Fathers & Daughters
Meg Meeker's Epidemic: How Teen Sex is Killing Our Kids is a book I recommend to everyone concerned with adolescent sexuality. She has recently published Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know (Washington: Regnery Publishing, Inc., c. 2006) to emphasize the irreplaceable role of fathers in rearing healthy daughters. Whereas Epidemic was richly documented and sought to describe alarming developments in the nation, this book is generally anecdotal and filled with the common sense of a practicing physician, wife (married to a physician with whom she shares a medical practice), and mother of four children. The bibliography duly refers us to serious scholarly resources, but the text itself targets a popular audience.
A medical doctor, Meeker credits her father (also a MD) with instilling in her the confidence she has needed to succeed in life. He "was an eccentric man, quiet, antisocial and extremely smart" (p. 3). He said very little, yet his daughter always knew he loved her. "My dad protected me fiercely, to the point where I was almost too embarrassed to date anyone. He was a hunter and he let my boyfriends know that" (p. 3). It was easier to talk with her mother, but she knew she'd call on her dad, who was "tough" and "serious," if ever her "life or health" were endangered. He was thoroughly, unapologetically, masculine.
In retrospect, ever more deeply impressed by her father, Meeker says: "When we think of masculine men, we (women at least) envision those with one overriding quality: a spine of steel. Nothing makes a woman's heart melt like a man with courage and resolve" (p. 132). "True masculinity is the moral exercise of authority. And your little girl needs it" (p. 47). Troubled girls rarely have "authoritative" fathers; their dads are almost always absent or indifferent. Even when she "pushes hard against your rules, flailing, crying that you are mean or unfair, she is really asking you a question: Am I worth the fight, Dad? Are you strong enough to handle me? Make sure she knows the answer is yes" (p. 32).
All daughters need what Meeker's dad provided. Men, she insists, "are natural leaders, and your family looks to you for qualities that only fathers have. You were made a man for a reason, and your daughter is looking to you for guidance that she cannot get from her mother" (p. 4). She has written this book to summon men to stand up and assume the role required of them if their daughters are to flourish. "Men, good men," she says: "We need you. We--mothers, daughters, and sisters--need your help to raise healthy young women. We need every ounce of masculine courage and wit you own, because fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for a daughter's life" (p. 7). In her medical practice, she has talked with hundreds of girls. She has watched them react to their fathers' presence. And she firmly believes that dads really matter.
They matter because every girl wants a hero. And she wants, above all else, for that hero to be her dad. She wants someone who will protect her. Indeed, Meeker devotes an entire chapter to this theme: "Protect Her, Defend Her (and use a shotgun if necessary)." She wants someone who will enforce rules that protect her--especially from the sexual predators (both in person and the media) that prowl about everywhere. Knowing the ravages resulting from teenage promiscuity--STDs, depression, suicide--dads must resolutely stand guard over their daughters' sexual behavior. "Of the fifteen to eighteen million new cases of STDs that occur every year, two-thirds occur in kids under the age of twenty-five" (p. 101). This need not be! Strong fathers could prevent lots of it! For the truth is: "If you don't want your daughter to be sexually active in high school, you need to tell her, you need to teach her. Otherwise, she will be. Popular culture trains our daughters for a life of promiscuity" (p. 121).
Dads are also important because they're their daughters' first love. Girls easily identify with their mothers, for they have much in common. But men are a mysterious and alluring other. So girls desire to know and love the opposite sex, and they rightfully long to establish ties with their fathers. Daughters need to know, continually, that they are loved. Words are important, but actions count for much more. Setting and enforcing curfews, spending time together (even when little is said), listening to her a mere 10 minutes a day, telling her you love her. Above all: stay married to her mother, even when it takes unusual grit and discomfort. "The most common cause of unhappiness and despair, what crushes the spirit of children more often than anything else, is divorce. Divorce is really the central problem that has created a generation of young adults who are at higher risk for chaotic relationships, sexually transmitted diseases, and confusion about life's purpose" (p. 144). And, ultimately, if you're a good dad, chances are your daughter will marry a man just like you. If you're truthful, she'll covet a truthful husband. If you're a man of integrity, she'll look for that quality in a man.
Importantly, dads must realize that they will, like it or not, "teach her who God is." In this book, unlike her early one, Meeker reveals her religious commitments. She insists that girls need God, and they need a dad who will "show her who He is, what he is like, and what he thinks about her" (p. 177). Irreligious parents reading this book, she says, need to disregard much the media says about religion and realize how deeply children need religious roots. All sorts of research demonstrate the healthy role religious faith plays in the lives of the young. Parents who ignore this endanger their kids far more than parents who smoke cigarettes in their cars and homes! "God is more important than dinner" (p. 182). "Kids are born with an inherent sense that life is more than what they see" (p. 181). They simply know that there is "an invisible, real, and wonderful" inner self, the "soul," that is of ultimate and eternal worth. Dads "are the first authority figure" in a girl's life. "If you are trustworthy, loving, and kind, your daughter will approach god more easily" (p. 190). Much more than boys, "girls tend to see more similarities between God and their parents" (p. 190). So dads need to read (C.S. Lewis, Lee Strobel, Thomas a Kempis, Pascal and Dostoevsky are recommended) and think and come to conclusions regarding God. Your daughters especially need to know where you stand--and where you are headed.
In a land plagued by "experts" who insist kids can be reared by same-sex couples, or by single parents, Meeker's book is a realistic reminder that both boys and girls (and girls especially) need dads who are committed to and involved in their daughters' development. As Armand M. Nicholi, Jr., M.D., professor of psychiatry at Harvard medical School, the author of The Question of God, says: "No one interested in what children experience growing up in our culture today and the impact that parents, especially fathers, have on that experience, can afford to miss reading this book."
- Being a Good Dad Isn't Hard But It Does Take Work
I loved the tone and message of this book which is basic to everything in life - anything worth doing is worth doing well. That doesn't mean it comes easy, in fact it may be a lot of hard, painful work, but if it is something you care about, like your daughter and your relationship with her, it is worth doing right. Unlike many parenting books, this one isn't overly 'preachy'. It also focuses on attributes men tend to have and how to use those attributes to be a good father - be strong, be firm, be supportive, be involved. I highly recommend this book to the average dads out there who want to do the best they can for their little girl. This book speaks very well to the average dad. It acknowledges our flaws and focuses on our tendencies - men are problem solvers - and points out that in some cases, this is exactly what your daughter is looking for. Meg Meeker does an excellent job of inserting anecdotes of fathers and their struggles in their role as well as some true stories about daughters that were not so fortunate. Although Meeker does delve some into religion, she doesn't overdo it. Her presentation throughout the book is very pragmatic and objective. For example, she makes a point in one chapter about religious beliefs and how it is important for fathers to be clear about their beliefs with their daughters. Even if those beliefs are not in the mainstream, she observes that what is important is to be clear and communicate that to your daughter with an awareness that those beliefs may not be accepted by all. Meeker's message is that the key is to be clear in those beliefs, honest and strong. Meeker makes a critical observation that is contrary to many popular parenting ideas today. That is don't be afraid to be strong, don't hesitate to be assertive. Often, that strength and assertiveness is the guidance and support girls are looking for, whether conciously or unconciously....more info
- Eye-opening view on the importance of fathers to their daughters
For anyone who wonders what Dad's role needs to be, this book really shows how important a father's influence can be in his daughter's choices in life from values and self-worth down to the kind of man she chooses to marry. If you ever felt that Dad just brings home a paycheck and does a little roughhousing, this will show you just how important it is for Dad to actively participate in making daughters into better healthier adults through insisting on discipline, taking the time to share their opinions and feelings, and just being present....more info
- Good Information to start with
Our first is due in 3 months(our little Chloe) and I heard about the book through Dave Ramsey, I have to say it's been worthwhile. You might not agree with every chapter or suggestion but the most important thought is that we Father's get involved and be the Dad our girls need on many levels. Some of the info might scare some people but I think it's trying to wake up us newer Dad's to the important roles we play in her life and to take the reins and not opt out when it gets difficult or about something we're uncomfortable with. Good book and I will not be opting out, our daughters deserve the best....more info
- Powerful Presentation
Reading this book gave me insights into how I need to take a pro-active role in my granddaughter's maturation. It is refreshing to see confirming evidence for positions I believe to be in the best interests of our youth. This is empowering stuff....more info
- Great book for fathers, daughters, and mothers.
Great book which gives a lot of insight into the father / daughter relationship. My wife has confirmed that pretty much everything in the book is accurate, particularly the esteem in which daughters hold their fathers. Dads - you need to read this book to understand what a profound effect your actions have on your daughters' happiness and development. This book will make you realize you need to "step up to the plate" and be the best dad you can be, and be the hero your little girl needs you to be to set her reference point for everything else in her life, especially her eventual spouse....more info
- strong fathers
this book is very good, my hushband and i read it and it sure help us ....more info
- Great Book for any Dad
Really informative. Some of the stats are scary but I think we need that some times instead of going through life with rose colored glasses. Being a Dad today is hard and even harder for being a Father. This book helped me focus on what is really important... My daughters ...more info
- A must read for fathers with daughters
This book reveals Dr. Meekers amazing insight into the pitfalls our daughters face in today's society. READ THIS BOOK, you could be saving your daughters life!!...more info
- To truly understand the scope of your responsibility...READ.
This book provides the stats necessary for you to grasp the enormity of your newfound responsibility of raising a daughter. First off, to me, you should have grasped that while coupling with the mother. The consequences of your inaction are on display by the anecdotes and stories seen by this doctor. She makes sure you change now. If you read this and do not become a better father, you have failed, not only yourself, but your daughter as well.
- if you think your relationships suck! READ THIS! it will change your life instantly
For all those souls who have lost hope in life and everything we are being taught over and over again about life, religion, services, products, marketing, humanity, relationships, war,and all LIFE. It doesn't matter if your are a father or not! it doesn't matter if you have a daughter or not!
If you yourself have come from a broken home and don't know why things fall apart in your family and other ties, this is a book to not miss out on. ALl the agony and hurt just melts away! it shows you a roadmap ...guess what its not a preacher who is writing this! or a religious mascot,,,but a person a real human being with enough background and medical experience to back it up.
Very fruitful advice and upcoming DAD's hear me out: you need this book to be inspired and overcome any bad marriage or bad relationship that may shape your decisions otherwise. yes things are extremely different with raising girls if you come from a boy only family! Get ready to be inspired and move beyond yourself, your relationships and endure for a worthy cause! ...more info
- Very Pleased
I'm at page 100 - and because I'm a Dad (my daughter is 4).... I'm finding this information immencely interesting and informative.... I see myself reading this book many times! As my daughters age changes every few years....more info
- Catholic Fathers, Catholic Daughters
As I read this I could not believe it was written by an MD and an expert in the field. This author is a hard core catholic and the book is basically catholic dogma gussied up as help for fathers. She trades on fears every father has to push home her one sided world view of what you need to do. She makes a big deal about being a scientist and needing proof before coming to conclusions yet her references are the flimsy and selectively chosen to drive home her one dimensional worldview. The chapter on God is unbelievable - she says (pg 182) "A man can banter with his friends and colleagues about whether God exists. But a father looks at his daughter and knows." The fact that a supposed scientist and doctor can make such an outrageous sweeping claim is staggering and the lot of her conclusions are similarly based on her own opinions - not fact.
She has a lot of good points, which I assume is why so many people think this book is great, but I can save you the money if you do the following:
1 Love your daughters
2 Protect you daughters
3 Teach by example
An awful book though because she claims to teach fathers about caring for their daughters while pushing her conservative agenda. If she had been up front about that I would have no problem with her book, but her duplicity cannot be condoned. ...more info
- Not what you expect
i agree with one reviewer where they mentioned that
"this book is that it doesn't offer the enlightening advice I thought it might. Instead, this book is centered on the idea that traditional values and hard work are the keys to understanding your daughter's problems"... this is absolutely true. It basically states the obvious with no new advice or guidelines.
over all a disappointment....more info
- Such an important topic, disappointing book...
Some good advice, but as a father of two daughters I couldn't relate to a much of what Meg was saying. Too religious and too conservative for my taste. I couldn't help but feel the author was projecting her own sexually repressed childhood on the world of fathers and daughters. Statistics mixed with half truths and her own conservative opinion mixed together to the point she lost my interest chapter after chapter.
Chapter 1 - You are the most important man in her life. True
Chapter 2 - She needs a hero. True. Mom's and dad's can do this.
Chapter 3 - You are her first love. True. A lot of responsibility there.
Chapter 4 - Teach her humility. Good advice. Mom's and dad's can do this.
Chapter 5 - Protect her, defend her. You bet, where is my shotgun?
Chapter 6 - Pragmatism and grit two of your greatest assets. OK
Chapter 7 - Be the man you want her to marry. OK, but could get pretty twisted thinking too much like that.
Chapter 8 - Teach her who God is. Like I said, religious and conservative book.
Chapter 9 - Teach her how to fight. Mom's and dad's can do this.
Chapter 10 - Keep her connected. Sure.
Over all some good and obvious stuff if you can filter out the sexually repressed and very conservative assumptions....more info
- Exceptional Book for Fathers
This book has helped me so much. I have two young daughters and now, I feel like I have a greater understanding of how to love them - even into the teenage years! It meant so much to me that I bought ten copies and gave them to my friends and relatives. Please buy this book for the special father in your life!...more info
- New Gransfather
I was raised in an all boy family and we had two boys of our own so I've had no experience raising daughters. Even though I'm the grandfather, I found this book an excellent book on having a great relationship with a granddaughter. All of the author's advice was not just based on her opinions but she showed actual research and her own experiences as a basis for her recommendations ("secrets")....more info
- must read
If you have a daughter(s) this is a must read to learn how important you are in their future. This read hits on areas I never thought of, much less know how they would impact my daughters life choices. Do yourself a favor and spend the few dollars and make a positive change in how your daughter sees you. She indeed is watching....more info
- A must read!
Don't hesitate to buy this BOOK, don't buy any of her books on CD, they're read horribly. This book is fabulous and I've purchased for friends and relatives and have recommended to others that love it too. Well-written and thought-provoking. Have your the mothers read this as well. A no-brainer.
- Awesome book, very practical!!
This book was an eye opener. The book was easy to read and very practical. I will recommend this book to anyone who has a daughter. The world our daughters live in is very tough and we dad's are the key to their success!!!...more info
This book helped me a lot where I thought I was at a bit of a cross road with my daughter. It gave me tremendous new insight on how she was acting and reacting towards me. This is exactly what I needed....more info
- Don't just read it...Do it!
This book isn't a "must read" for today's dad. It's a "must buy" so you can refer to it as the unofficial constitution and bill of rights for fathers raising daugthers. I have two so far (daughters, that is) -- only seven and four years of age now. I can see myself referring back to this engaging, inspirational call-to-arms as I attempt to successfully protect, educate, encourage, motivate and love these soon-to-be tweens, teenagers, young adults, and eventually, women.
This is the best book on parenting I've experienced. Even if you're not a reader, get the audio version (I did) or AT LEAST scan the last chapter. Your daughter(s) need you. ...more info
- A must read for every dad with a daughter
This book is really wonderful! I had a great dad growing up who did the things in this book naturally and the author clearly and simply lays out how much girls need their dads. My husband is reading it for our daughter right now. This book really made me cry and appreciate how good of a job my dad did....more info
- Excellent book
The only book my husband has read, from cover to cover, in over 10 years. : )...more info
- Great insight into how your daughter thinks
A fantastic book that informed as well as challenged me as a father. I learned a tremendous amount of information about what a teen girl faces in our society today. Armed with this information, the author throws out a series of challenges to the father on how to deal with these realities of his daughters world, how to be a man and fight for her and how your actions will define your daughter's experience of how you love her. I would recommend this as a must read to any father who has young daughters....more info
- Practical, sensitive and insightful advice for dads.
I am the father of a 12 going on 13 year old and was looking for an insiprational book to help me get a grip on the sudden behavioral changes I started noticing in my daughter. Once I read this book I realized that it was I who had changed his behavior. I was getting out of touch with my daughter and was beginning to lose my friendship with her until I accidently picked this book up at the library.
What a revelation! The advice was succint and practical and yet sensitive and sage. I guess when one is seeking for knowledge one finds it in unknown places. I am thankful for Dr. Meeker for having tackled such a difficult topic and condensed it into a fabulous read.
Highly recommend it....more info
- Great, Great Book for Dads
I've got a wonderful daughter which is why I picked up Dr. Meeker's Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters.
This is a good book - comforting, wise and filled with observations from a long standing pediatrician that will underscore how important a strong dad is in a girl's life. Strong in terms of being willing to set appropriate rules, live a good example, instill respect of self and parent and foster the type of communication that enables the young lady in your life to know she has a supportive and loving Dad always there for her.
The bottom line is that your daughter is watching and listening to you even during those years when you're convinced her mind is always a million miles away. Dr. Meeker makes a great case about how your interactions with your daughter in a loving parent role will help make a strong and confident young lady and woman in later years.
It sounds trite, but every dad should read this.
- way too conservative and religious
There is some useful information in the book but the author is way too religious and conservative, and she preaches her own beliefs rather than scientific information....more info
- The best daughter/dad book I've read
This book is realistic and helpful regarding the dangers out there for our daughters (e.g. STDs) but also offers real insight into what daughter's need and want from their dad (though they won't always tell you upfront). As an M.D., mother and wife, Meg Meeker is in a great position to write about the topic and she does an awesome job. The book is factual but doesn't get bogged down because it is so intimate and intersperses real stories to make some of its points. As a dad of a 14 year old daughter I am fortunate my friend gave me this book. It is by far the best daughter/dad book I've read. ...more info
- Borrow it if you really want to - but don't buy it.
This book is okay but it is somewhat preachy. She states a lot of her opinions as fact. She does make some nice valid points but somewhat too conservative for everyone's taste.
Overall it's a bit over rated.
My husband wasn't too impressed either....more info
- Wonderful and Informative Guide for Fathers. Buy it!
It This is an excellent book that really challenges fathers to be the best dad they can be. The book stresses over and over again how important a father is (opposite of the message that pop culture tells us) and that a father is the main person in a daughter's life that determines the direction their life will take. It makes clear that this is not a easy task, but clearly a worthwhile one. It also give you the permission to do what needs to be done.
A Dad needs to be on the front line and a hero for their daughter. This is the opposite message of pop culture. While this book challenges you to be the best dad, it also tells you why you can be.
This book builds you and your ego up as a father by outlining all the power you bring to the task.
Here is a paragraph that sums up the feel and mission of this book:
"You will have friends that are much more lenient with their daughter. The risks out there are real...don't relax until the battle leaves home (and not even then). This is a tall order, but I (the author) have seen enough heroic fathers to know that it's a tall order that every good man can fill if he sets himself to it. All it requires is that you be a man, a real man, which means a man of courage, perseverance, and integrity. You were made a man for a reason. You were made a man to be strong, loving husband and a father. So listen to your instincts (about protecting your daughter) and do what's right. Be a hero."
Her writing style smoothly mixes encouragement, facts, stories and references for a smooth, balanced and informative read.
Chapters include topics such as:
Protect and defend her
Pragmatism and grit
You are the most important man in her life
She needs a hero
Teach her to fight
Be the man you want her to marry
Teach her who God is
Keep her connected
The author, Meg Meeker, MD has spent twenty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics and a fellow of the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute. She is a popular speaker on teen issues and is frequently heard on nationally syndicated radio and television programs. She lives and works in Traverse City, Michigan, where she is married and practices with her husband, Walter Meeker. They have four children.
The author basis her conclusions not only on her own experiences from twenty years in the medical field, but also an extensive usage of outside sources. She details her sources in the back of the book in her Bibliography and Notes.
This book focuses on relationships with daughters and does not mention relationships with sons.
I urge mothers to buy this book for the father of their daughters and I urge fathers to take up the challenge and go to battle for the lives of their daughters.
- if you're a Dad, why would you NOT read this book?
Good message, good examples, well-written, easy-to-read.
Do I give 5 stars for everything I read? No- actually- I can think of another book on raising boys that I read that was pretty weak.
But this is written by a woman who knows what she's talking about (she is a doctor who works with kids and sees their interactions with their parents). All of her points that are opinion are supported by examples from her work. All of her points that are factual are well-referenced.
In other words, she's not just saying what she thinks and what she's observed. She spent a good bit of time researching this material.
MUST read- even if you only have boys, because inevitably, you will have a daughter-in-law, right? and then hopefully grand-daughters.......more info
- Every father should read this, embrace this, breathe this
My boss recommended this book for us to help with my 13 year old daughter. For a "self-help" book, it is well written, easy to understand and extremely helpful. I highly recommend it to all fathers, step-fathers, boyfriends of mother's with daughters.... This is a must read!...more info
- Great validation
Turn off the TV. Reject Hollywood completely. Go to Mass or Church Service with her. Take a courageous stand, for her sake. Amen. A very encouraging book. Full of validation for Dads who are trying to protect children today....more info
- The most important book I've ever purchased
I never realized how important my relationship was with my daughter until I read this book. This book has had a HUGE impact on me and the way that I look at my daughter. I've given this book to 5 or 6 other dads, and they say the same thing....more info
- I have never recieved the books,
I have never recievd the books. they were mailed to a wrong address (696 Ravensworth, Conroe, Texas 77302 which the street I live on dead ends into only 9 houses away. I cchecked with the people who occupy the former address and they never recieved the order either. I have tried to communicsate with you about the problem for several weeks and did not know how as I'm not to smart about the internet. The address they should have been sent to is 532 Raleigh Dr, Conroe, Texas 77302. Please make this change of address for my future orders. I have check with UPS and they said they did not have a record of shipping them to either address.
Please help me with this. I really want the books.
Tyrone Mynhier...more info
- Must read!
This is a must read for every father no matter the age of your children! It will give you tremendous insight in seeing how your daughter is being directed by the forces in her life....more info
- Every man, father or not, should read this book!!!
I am 71 and my wife is 61 years young and we are about to adopt a daughter 8 years old. I have raised two children, one of each, and they are in their late 40s. I wish this book, "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" was around when I raised my first daughter. Being a strong principled father figure is the most important single factor in your daughters life. You must "Realize Who You Are to Her", "Open Your Eyes to Her World", you must fight for her body, mind, soul and even your relationship with her. There are many distractions and forces fighting against you, leading her into wrong choices. She will fight you, too. You must remain strong and this book will go a long way in helping you. Your reward will be a wonderfully secure daughter who will love you for being "Dad" when she needed you most BUT, didn't realize it until later.
Thank you, Dr. Meeker, for writing this important work!
Ft. Pierce, FL...more info
- Amazing book
My husband says this book has given him great insight for our daughters 11 and 15. ...more info
- Not Good
I bought this book thinking it might give me some advice on how to raise my daughter, being a first time father. Unfortunately, it did nothing for me. The author fills your head with negative and doomsday stories about girls she saw as a MD and does not offer any positive side to anything. I finished about 3 chapters before I, literally, threw this book across the room. It angered me more than anything else.
The author doesn't have any children of her own, and seems to think she can preach to the reader how a strong father can bring up a strong daughter. The author also provides about 90% common sense ideals along with 10% sob stories of girls she saw as an MD. Honestly, none of her information helped me or changed the way I'm raising my daughter. As an intelligent and strong adult and father, I think I had a better idea of how to bring up a strong daughter before I opened this book.
Stay away from this book, unless you enjoy becoming enraged before you go to sleep at night....more info
- A very fine book highly recommended to me by the Producer of Fiat Empire
Very kindly suggestive book of dealing
with the old generation gap. Authorita-
tive Fathers was the origainl title.
Covers the subject(s) from A-Z....more info
- Good advice to Dad's; from a women doctor...
This was the best book I have read regarding how to be a father to girls. I attribute this to the fact the advice comes from a women first and a psychologist second. Dr. Meeker keeps saying things like, "she may not think she wants you to, but she does"... This is now my mantra when giving boundaries to my daughters that are met with protest. I especially liked the chapter on protecting them and being affectionate toward them....more info
- Buyer beware
I think any buyer of this book needs to beware that they are essentially buying a 288 page rant by a very religous and very conservative author whose science is questionable to say the least. Most people seem to be writing praise for this book, but look through this list of reviews for the one-stars and read them. You will see a very consistent message. This is not a book that will make you feel good about being a father to your new little girl. It uses the same fear-mongering tactics that conservatives so love to try and beat Dr. Meeker's conservative social worldview about sex, education, religion, the role of men and women in society, etc. into you. The list of Dr. Meeker's speaking experiences from her website is rather telling and notably includes CPAC, the National Leadership Summit on Abstinence, The O'Reilly Factor, Dr. Laura, etc. Many people may well love this book, and it does include some good (albeit mostly commmon sense) advice. But if a very strong Christian social worldview isn't your cup of tea, this book probably won't be either....more info
- poor read
This book was referred to me by a friend. After reading the first few chapters it felt like the writer was trying to solve their own personal guilt. Poor read so I returned it....more info
- A wolf in sheep's clothing!
The title, cover and introduction are truly misleading. I eagerly began reading this marvelously decorated book as soon as it arrived in the mail. What I found after the introduction was a 180 degree turn-around from what I expected. As a modestly successful person and a progressive man, the expectation was a bit of insight on transferring the strength a little girl needs to be successful and self-valued in a world of varying morals and work ethics. What I received instead was a use of statistics and anecdotal evidence designed to scare men to raise their daughters in a fashion similar to the author's own upbringing.
Please don't mistake the tone of this review. I believe there's some valuable information being presented in the book. I certainly feel that as parents we need to have a better understanding of the STDs presenting in our society and their methods of transference so that we can better educate our children. However, I found the method presentation (a mention of HIV, HPV, and Herpes around every story-line) a bit disturbing in a book I expected to be about will and character. Working in the medical field I understand the bombardment of human illness and its mental implications that a physician can witness. It makes them jaded to a point that they don't think positive things are actually happening out there in the world, and unfortunately that's the message the author portrays to young fathers. There's a level of healthy fear and then there's paranoia. As a father, if you can't find the appropriate balance you end up locking your daughter away with a chastity belt in the basement or giving up entirely.
I do think though, that this book provides solid guidance to some fathers whose morals and idea of family align with the author's. I've known some women, brought up in this fashion, who've turned out to be marvelous and successful contributors to society. I just find for the general audience the views expressed are severely narrow-minded. There's a superb niche out there for which this book can serve as a splendid reinforcement and provider of strength to fathers. It just didn't find a home on my bookshelf.
- Fathers and Daughters
This book is a must for any father(or mother for that matter) with a daughter. A large part of the information was common sense to me but it was reassuring to read some proven facts and statistics that supported my morals, ethics and opinions on the importance of protecting my daughters....more info
- Good reminder, but lacking in some areas
I would like to commend Dr. Meeker for writing a book focused on improving Fatherhood. Too often fathers forget their influence in raising a strong daughter.
This book gave me a key insight: Take a Stand for your Daughter(s). Most of Dr. Meeker's advice centers around this insight. It is crucial to believe in your daughter and stand up for her morals and virtues.
This book was a good reminder but I found it lacking in a few areas. Most notable was how to drive long-term change. The lessons are insightful but they don't drive a substantial change in a Father's way of Being. Too often we remember a lesson but don't change.
I struggled with Dr. Meeker's data on Faith and Divorce. The common misperception is to take the initial data that stronger father's are married and have faith in God. There is ample evidence to show that the key is to have parents that have strong morals, virtues and a belief in their daughter's potential. This does not require Faith in a single God or a couple that is married.
Having a strong family unit with a father and mother in the same household is important. Again, I differ with Dr. Meeker's opinion that you should stay together for the sake of the children. Your children are intuitive humans and will feel your intentions. Staying together but spiting each other and not communicating will also be detrimental. A commitment to your wife is required for a successful marriage that shows the benefits of a strong marriage.
Overall a good reminder for Fathers on their strong influence on their daughter's perception of men. Strong evidence shows this to be true, and I can attest from my experience with my daughters. My recommendation is to read this book but consider enhancing with stronger changes in your Being, for example reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle or Seven Habits by Covey....more info
- Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
I bought this for my son at Christmas because he is the father of triplets (two boys one girl). It was easy to order, a fair price and delivered in a timely fashion....more info
- Good book about father's role to his daughters
it's very nice book. My church's priest recommended this book to me.
in this book, the author suggest ways to lead daughters to be very nice
women by her fathers. and the author introduce solutions to many teen
agers's problems like sex, drug and drinking. strong father can get
her respect, though he is strict and authoritive father, temporarily
she hate her father. ...more info
- Valuable advices, but it is over alarmist - it could be more balanced...
Great book, great advices. I really recommend dads and moms to read this book. It has all the good answers you are looking for, which are applicable to girls of all ages (it could see myself applying them to my 2 years old daughter and my 26 years old sister).
My big frustration with this book is that it is over alarmist and plays too much with statistics, trying to convince dads to take ownership of their daughters education. The problem is that if you got to the point of bothering to read such a book, it is obvious that you care!! I found it useful at the beginning, it gave reason for my concerns, but when she pounds you in the head with the same story over and over, it gets tiring and frustrating. Almost quit reading, but the advices are too good and I kept going.
I would rate it 5 stars if it was more balanced.
- A must-read for fathers
As a father with two daughters, this book is invaluable. It really breaks through and makes me realize that times are very different from when I was growing up to now. Has made me re-think what I need to do for my daughters to get them ready for life, and how they need me in the present. Excellent book!!!...more info
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